Cheating Hearts and Second Chances

Betrayal, humiliation, anger and jealousy are a tangle of emotions that are not soon forgotten. There is no easy answer to infidelity. The aftermath of an affair can leave you feeling completely shattered not to mention dazed, confused and vulnerable. Many people aren't sure of what to do next. This feeling of indecision is a good indication that you are open to the idea of a second chance, otherwise you would have already packed your bags and left.

Should you stay or should you go? Let's begin by looking at the cheaters character. Are you dealing with a chronic cheater? If your partner has a history of cheating, chances are they will cheat again. For whatever reasons there is something fundamentally wrong with this person. They may be incapable of saying "no" to temptation or they may not have the same sense of love and commitment that you have for them. To invest more time into a re-offender keeps you living in a high-risk zone. You may never get of the roller coaster of distrust and uncertainty. If you're living in a constant state of fear and doubt and you've heard the words "I'm sorry" once too often, then it may be time to move on. You cannot change the cheater - it is their job to do that. What you can do is change yourself and refuse to play the victim.