Avoiding Toxic Romantic Relationships

The mind, body and soul are the three key elements that allow healthy adult relationships to flourish. We fall into toxic relationships when we allow one element to be the primary force in our decision making when seeking a mate and push aside the other two. In order to be full filled we must enter into a relationship as a whole person; when you seek a person to complete you that is when you run into problems. Often we carry our own toxic baggage from our childhood or past relationships with us for so long that we allow it to define who we are. When we allow the past to define us, we fall into a victim's mentality. It develops self esteem issues and creates an emotional barrier that no one can get through.

In being whole, the mind is a powerful tool. You can not expect someone else to be your think tank. You have to enter into the relationship self assured, confident and have a sense of peace about you. Drama attracts drama so it all boils down to getting back in life and love what you put out there. You and your mate should be able to grow together mentally. What one does not see, the other should be able to pick up on it right away.

When it comes to the body this is the element that most people focus on first and foremost. Sayings like "you would not buy a car with out test driving it first" are popular in our society when it comes to sex and relationships. But by only focusing on the body you are neglecting the other key points. A sex only relationship will indeed turn toxic. Sex last only but for a few minutes, well a few hours for some but a friendship and last a lifetime. When the mind and body come together the passion is intense. Love making between two people who are in sync with each other is an energy that can not be compared to anything else in the world.