How to Talk to Someone Who is Sick

been suffering with Fibromyalgia and lupus for almost a year now and the number one thing that is my pet peeve is when people come up to me with their opinions of what caused my illness and what can be done to cure it. For my illness there is no cure and if some of the most brilliant minds of medicine and science can not find a cure then why do people seem to think that they possess the find all cure to life's major disease. If you seem to think that perhaps you do have the cure than please by all means go to your local research university and present them with it I'm sure they would love to hear it!

So this is not meant to upset anyone or to cause bad feelings it's simply to let those that are fortunate not to have a life long illness know how to talk to someone who does. Take in to deep consideration that a person that is going through a hard time with a disease or chronic illness already feel down and some even depressed at their new found limitations. So the key is not to let them feel as though they themselves have caused this unfortunate circumstance but that you are there for them just simply to love and listen.

Keep strong opinions to yourself

I have come across many who have tried to tell me what I've done to deserve this unfortunate circumstance and that if only I would have enough religious faith then I would be able to get over it. Now whatever your belief is that's fine and if that is what works for you that's great! But someone with an illness is already facing questions like:

- Was it something I did that caused this?

- Is there something more I can do to beat this?

- Is it my fault?

- Did I do something bad and this is my punishment?