Cinderella Syndrome: Love and Relationships

Have you ever been in a relationship that made you tired. Maybe mentally or physically. But in the beginning it was roses, champagne, slow dancing and chocolates? That person hung the moon and was the only thing you could possibly think about. In your rush to be with this person you never once stop to think of the things that you may be giving up. You family disapproves and all you can do is think of that person. Well we need to learn how and when it is the right time to let go of a relationship that was once heaven. So many of us get caught up in that fairy tale type of relationship. The man is going to come into our life and take us away from this struggle of life and move us into his castle, love and cherish us till days end. Well that's ok, if your name is Cinderella and its ok if you are actually Cinderella. But this is reality and its the furthest from the truth. We need to work on ourselves, ladies.

We need to work on ourselves as individuals. We cannot rush into a relationship with a man or anyone for that matter and we are incomplete in our lives. Go to college, even if you have been out of high school ten years who cares!? Travel with your girlfriends, see what this world and its beaches and resorts have to offer. We as women tend to sale ourselves short looking for a way out of the mundane and average life.

Now I am in no way saying that marriage or a long term relationship isn't good for the soul or the heart. But I am saying don't rush into it. You are going to wake up bitter, feeling incomplete and wishing that you had taken another road and that leaves room for nothing but resentment and anger for and with the person you are with. Which is misdirected cause we shouldn't be upset with anyone but ourselves. Take control of your life from the very start. Take on some responsibilities. Show and prove to yourself that you can do these things without help.