Cure the Lure of Bad Boys

Men who consider themselves the good, faithful, affectionate, sensitive, provider type say that they can't for the life of them figure why women who are strong and overly vocal about their independence and their emotional and physical needs still find themselves lured by those shady bad boy types.

You know the bad boy kinds. They tell you they'll be there at 9, and then never show, they say they love you, but what they really mean is they love you, her, and their baby's mother. These bad boy kinds forget Valentine's Day and anniversaries and when you complain about your second rate treatment they use reverse psychology telling you that they thought you were the strong independent kind, not a weak emotional woman. These bad boys take their time deciding whether or not to commit and divide their time up between the multiple women vying for their attention, which lands them on your doorstep at 2 a.m. trying to hoist you off to an all night diner just so you can't complain that they don't take you anywhere.

It's not that the bad boys don't want you, they do, they just want your wallet, your warm bed, your home cooked meals and whatever the limit is on your credit card as well. When women are asked, why or how they allow this to happen over and over again, they say, they love the mystery and the thrill of the chase. "He's exciting" they say. "He's different and makes me feel alive" others say. These women are convinced that the boring "good guys" do absolutely nothing for them physically and they say that they don't find them mentally or emotionally stimulating because they're predictable. My advice is, wake up and learn from the mistakes of women everywhere. There is nothing mysterious about wondering who the man drooling on the pillow next you slept with last night or wondering if he even cared enough about you, her or himself to use a condom. There is also nothing thrilling about being treated like the last drag on a cigarette and smashed out underfoot.