Online Dating Nightmares

Actually, the people you meet in church are really not much different from anybody else you meet. The men still want sex. The women still want security. It's just somehow so much more "proper" to do it within this culturally acceptable framework. I was married for a number of years to a bible believing, born again christian. I've had a lot more fun, and have not sacrificed anything in terms of spirituality, with my girlfriend of 2 years. ....a lady i met on the internet.

Posted on 09/20/2008 at 9:09:11 PM

CC, I wasn't on a dating site nor did I intend on dating ANY of these guys when I first met them. I grew up around guys, so it's very easy for me to befriend them quickly. I just ended up getting along with these young men so well that we finally said "Hey, let's meet!" Every single time. Ironically, I'd NEVER get on a dating site. I was having innocent conversations on sites like BlackPlanet.com (account closed), CollegeClub.com (account closed), Amazon.com (see "Confident Dater Versus Arrogant Dater") (account still open solely for reviews), and I absolutely refuse to even humor flirting on MySpace.com. I'm just not going down this road again. Nope! Never. However, all of these stories make for good laughs and conversation with friends.

Posted on 01/15/2008 at 3:01:38 PM

Online dating is not that bad. I think it all depends on the dating site you go with. I found http://www.datingsitedirect.com to be a good resource.

Posted on 01/13/2008 at 3:01:01 AM

I have met a couple of "nightmares" online as well, but I have met even more in person ;)

Posted on 12/16/2007 at 3:12:39 PM

By the way, the last three guys weren't in the music business. Did you read it until the end?

Posted on 02/28/2007 at 8:02:00 AM

Nope, try again. I never chose them because of their career status. The website I was chatting on (BlackPlanet) just HAPPENED to be full of music monguls. Hell, you've been on MySpace; same deal there. It's not hard to find someone interested in a music career. It just happened that way. As for looks, why would I go for someone who I'm not physically attracted to? That's not logical (at least not to me). As for "those guys turn(ing) out to be jerks," the career doesn't make the man; the man does. I can find plenty of jerks that work in a library/grocery store/whatever. I've dated all kinds; these just happened to be online.

Posted on 02/28/2007 at 6:02:00 AM

Somewhat funny but I see a pattern. You keeping choosing dates based on looks and career status. Most of those people turn out to be jerks.

Posted on 02/28/2007 at 12:02:00 AM

Demetria, Yeah, I had to laugh about them too. They weren't funny at the time, but now that it has been over a year since my last online date, I crack up whenever I think about these dudes. You only live once; might as well make it exciting. Glad you liked my article. Michael, I don't smoke or (heavily) drink. Campus libraries and cafeterias have another set of nightmares. Churches are full of people who have sinned so bad that they had to go to church to redeem themselves. Crazy people are everywhere, but I'm young, single, and open to writing material. Until next time...

Posted on 08/12/2006 at 9:08:00 PM

Wow! Bearing your soul by divulging horror dates is therapeutic, but as you found out, chat rooms contain a huge and incredibly disproportionate number of weirdoes and sexual predators in comparison to the relatively very few really decent human beings there. If you frequent bars or certain beaches you know you will mostly find the same thing there too. We can soar with eagles or fight over scraps with the crows. Shut off your computer. Upgrade yourself. If you smoke or drink, kick those addictive drugs! Become full worthy of that incredible responsible loving caring soul-mate that you search for. He will be looking for you too! Frequent university campus libraries and cafeterias where you have far greater chances to meet progressive people who are motivated to do great things with their lives. Churches are also a place to meet good people and to feed your valuable spiritual life. May God bless your quest!

Posted on 04/06/2006 at 12:04:00 PM