Innocence Stolen in the Night

A Mother's Worst Nightmare

I woke up as the phone rang. Being a Sunday morning, with two of my kids at their father's house for the weekend and the other two still asleep, I let the answering machine get it. I heard my ex-mother-in-law Mary's voice telling me I should call her. While it
 was somewhat unusual for her to call, I didn't sense anything wrong by her words or tone. However, what Mary wanted to tell me would shake the very foundation of my sanity and change my life forever.

Mary's phone was busy, so I called my ex-husband Chris. Chris abruptly said his mom would call me back. This was not unusual either, since we preferred not to talk to each other. In retrospect, I feel he could of at least attempted to prepared me. When Mary finally called back, she started off with, "something has happened that I think you should know." I quickly realized she was talking about my children. Lynn was 7, Christopher was 5, and they were the only good things that had come of my first marriage. The thought of anything happening to them made my stomach crawl up into my throat.

I was told Chris had a "small party" the evening before and several people were there "playing cards." That next morning, my daughter Lynn, my sweet and precious daughter, walked into Chris's room and said she had been molested during the night and Christopher was a witness. Upon hearing those words I felt my stomach lurch and my legs give out. I grabbed onto my dresser for support and slumped there, bent over like someone kicked in my gut. I had just been told my daughter's innocence was stolen from her.

Time seemed to lapse around me while I cowered there, feeling a torturous agony I've never known. Finally, I asked Mary what the police said. Her reply was a simple, nonchalant, "We didn't call them because Lynn said he didn't hurt her and I don't think we should traumatize her anymore." I was appalled and shook my head, trying to comprehend the words I had just heard. How could they not call the police? Someone has to pay for this! Someone molested my daughter!

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  • I had just been told my daughter's innocence was stolen from her.
  • It was their own father's negligence that allowed this to happen.
  • The therapy is over now and, for the most part, we are better.
 
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I am sorry to hear this. And I can completely understand what your going through. We found out last year in June that my father-in-law had done the same to my 5 yr old daughter. And Yes I did call the police and report it. I also called DHS to report the crime. Now after this I realize living in Arkansas has it's downfalls. One of which being, Arkansas State Officials are to Lazy and UNCARING. They did nothing, (yes I said that correctly "NOTHING"), About it. Still a year and some odd months later I call to get information about where the investigation is at only to find a dead end and another run around. I don't know what to do or were to turn. It is like a piece of me has been torn away from me. And to find that the people your suppose to feel safe with and protect you from things such as this are unwilling to do their job. I look every were every day to find some strength and some form of solitude but until the government is willing to stand up for those who cannot protect themselve

Posted on 08/21/2008 at 4:08:43 PM

I am so sorry to hear this. My thoughts are with your whole family.

Posted on 06/25/2008 at 7:06:10 PM

I am so sorry to hear this. I hope your daughter is doing well now. This had to be so hard on all of you.

Posted on 02/04/2008 at 11:02:38 AM

That's terrible. I hope your daughter grows up and is able to have a normal life. I feel for your pain.

Posted on 09/26/2007 at 11:09:00 AM

The important thing is ... you love your daughter. That will go a long way in her healing. It is a rough road, but please do your best to help her turn from victim to survivor. I feel like I should give you a great big hug.

Posted on 09/20/2007 at 3:09:00 PM

Oh boy - I can't imagine the pain.

Posted on 09/11/2007 at 1:09:00 PM

Where I come from, once the State has failed to produce a case against anyone who has committed a sexual act against a child, the father of that child would be taking those matters into his own hands. Everybody knows someone that likes to kick the shit out of pedophiles. If it were my daughter, that perv would be beaten badly on a regular basis and he'd never be able to prove I had anything to do with it. He'd eventually confess and beg to go to jail just to quit getting beat weekly. Sundance justice, if you will.

Posted on 08/15/2007 at 1:08:00 AM

My ex-husband sounds a lot like yours. I have tried unsuccessfully to keep my daughter away from him or at least limit the time he has with her through the courts, to no avail. The guardian ad litem in our case was extremely neglectful, and if anything ever happens to my daughter while she is in his care, she will be the first person I will press civil charges against. I constantly threaten my ex-husband about taking him back to court and I intentionally spread rumors about all of the "evidence" I have against him, even though I have none (just word of mouth and what I personally witness--which in court means absolutely nothing). I feel this keeps him on his toes enough where he will not let any harm come to her. Your ex should never, ever, be allowed to care for your children without supervision ever again!! I am so sorry you had to go through this!

Posted on 08/14/2007 at 9:08:00 PM

What a shame their father is a slimy coward. It's easy to see what happened -- he didn't want to report for fear he'd get in trouble too due to the meth etc. I hope in your small community the word has gotten round about the perpetrator so others don't trust their children around him either.

Posted on 08/06/2007 at 7:08:00 PM

Thank goodness you are so strong and such a great Mom. Your children and step-children are so fortunate to have you. I am just sick to my stomach that this happened and I will pray for all of you guys. I hope your son understands it is not his fault either and does not feel guilty for anything.

Posted on 08/01/2007 at 6:08:00 PM

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