If you're feeling a little ignored, try looking deeper into the relationship to find out why...
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Women of all ages voice the complaint that their special guys sometimes (or frequently) take them for granted. If you have found yourself in this situation, then you realize that depending upon the nature of the relationship, this can mean any number of things. Perhaps your beau used to shower you with flowers and candy, or multiple phone calls/emails a day. Maybe it seems as if he's not as into you as he once was. There are a lot of reasons why the man in your life appears to be losing interest in the romance. Some of those reasons you're aware of already.
"Taken for granted? What does that mean?"
One thing that people must realize is that men and women have different thought processes. Women are natural "nurturers." Thus, it is common for them to expect the niceties that come along with being in a committed relationship. But simply telling your partner that you think he's taking you for granted may not be enough of an explanation to evoke the response that you're looking for.
Put plainly, you must first think about the behavior that you'd like him to display. Are the things you want him to do, things he was doing in the beginning of the relationship? If not, then he will have no idea what it is you expect of him. For instance, if he's never bought you roses on Valentine's Day, then it would be fairly unrealistic to be hopeful of receiving them out of the blue. In other words, make sure that the kind of behavior you expect is in accordance with the way he treated you at the start of the romance. Otherwise, the best thing to do is to gently broach the topic of what it is you want. Tell him that you really enjoy hearing from him during the day, instead of asking him why he does not call (which might put him on the defensive.) The point is that you might need to be fairly specific with him so that he understands your needs.
You take him for granted too...
"Taken for granted? What does that mean?"
One thing that people must realize is that men and women have different thought processes. Women are natural "nurturers." Thus, it is common for them to expect the niceties that come along with being in a committed relationship. But simply telling your partner that you think he's taking you for granted may not be enough of an explanation to evoke the response that you're looking for.
Put plainly, you must first think about the behavior that you'd like him to display. Are the things you want him to do, things he was doing in the beginning of the relationship? If not, then he will have no idea what it is you expect of him. For instance, if he's never bought you roses on Valentine's Day, then it would be fairly unrealistic to be hopeful of receiving them out of the blue. In other words, make sure that the kind of behavior you expect is in accordance with the way he treated you at the start of the romance. Otherwise, the best thing to do is to gently broach the topic of what it is you want. Tell him that you really enjoy hearing from him during the day, instead of asking him why he does not call (which might put him on the defensive.) The point is that you might need to be fairly specific with him so that he understands your needs.
You take him for granted too...
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