The day you got married was probably one of the happiest days of your life. You thought you would be happy forever or at least most of the time. You were going to be different, not another one of the 
divorce statistics. But here you are, in the middle of a marital storm, or maybe it's a storm that is brewing off in the distance but you know it's there. At any rate, it's not the same happy marriage as it once was.
Now you're asking "How do I save my marriage?" OR "Is it too late to save my marriage?" I have good news for you. Whatever the circumstances (or as I like to refer to as 'seasons') it will pass. Circumstances change, needs change, and people change but that doesn't mean you can't make it work. Marriage requires adjustments, changes and growth. As you go through life, no matter WHO you're married to, there will be challenges........that's just life.
Marriage is a commitment. Love is a commitment. Love isn't an emotion, it is an action. Sometimes you won't FEEL love......this will be the case, No Matter WHO you are married to.
(If there is abuse in your marriage you need to take swift action in order to protect yourself and your children. Abuse should NEVER be tolerated. Seek safety for yourself and your children.)
With 'Typical' marriage problems, there is always hope. Hang in there, get counseling, talk, find out what the other person needs or feels is lacking. Find out what works for YOUR marriage. Every marriage is different and has different circumstances and different needs. (The problems are pretty much the same, just the people are different) Work on it and realize, it's only a 'season', and it WILL pass.
Save Your Marriage Today EVEN if You are the Only One Who Wants to Work on It!! You can do things to alter another persons behavior for the better. There are many ways to do this. It's not sneaky or under-handed. If the two of you were ever in love you can achieve that again......you just have to go back "there" and figure out what you used to do and say. How did you used to act with your spouse. I bet you were attentive to their thoughts, dreams, wishes, and desires, etc.
Now you're asking "How do I save my marriage?" OR "Is it too late to save my marriage?" I have good news for you. Whatever the circumstances (or as I like to refer to as 'seasons') it will pass. Circumstances change, needs change, and people change but that doesn't mean you can't make it work. Marriage requires adjustments, changes and growth. As you go through life, no matter WHO you're married to, there will be challenges........that's just life.
Marriage is a commitment. Love is a commitment. Love isn't an emotion, it is an action. Sometimes you won't FEEL love......this will be the case, No Matter WHO you are married to.
(If there is abuse in your marriage you need to take swift action in order to protect yourself and your children. Abuse should NEVER be tolerated. Seek safety for yourself and your children.)
With 'Typical' marriage problems, there is always hope. Hang in there, get counseling, talk, find out what the other person needs or feels is lacking. Find out what works for YOUR marriage. Every marriage is different and has different circumstances and different needs. (The problems are pretty much the same, just the people are different) Work on it and realize, it's only a 'season', and it WILL pass.
Save Your Marriage Today EVEN if You are the Only One Who Wants to Work on It!! You can do things to alter another persons behavior for the better. There are many ways to do this. It's not sneaky or under-handed. If the two of you were ever in love you can achieve that again......you just have to go back "there" and figure out what you used to do and say. How did you used to act with your spouse. I bet you were attentive to their thoughts, dreams, wishes, and desires, etc.
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Leigh
11/06/2007
great article, thanks for the advice
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