The Case Against Adoption: Research and Alternatives for Concerned Citizens

I wear many labels. I am a mother, a lover, and a friend. I am a breastfeeder, a homeschooler, and an instinctive parent. I am an atheist, an advocate of reproductive freedom, and a liberal. I am also an anti-adoption activist.

That last label has been the source of much confusion, concern, and even negativity from friends and strangers alike. Most people have had no reason to question the ethics of adoption, and so they assume it to be a benevolent institution. For the average person, the anti-adoption movement
 is unfathomable, comparable to a movement against puppies or rainbows or ice cream. Even so, I am not ashamed to say that I believe adoption is not only unnecessary but also unethical.

My Story

When people discover that I am against adoption, they often assume that I am adopted. I am not, nor have I lost a child to adoption. In fact, I grew up believing that adoption was perfectly acceptable. When my parents were unable to conceive a second child, my young self even threatened to adopt one so that we could have a baby in the house. By the time I reached high school age, however, I had begun questioning more serious issues and forming deeper opinions. One of my elective classes involved frequent debates, and one particular discussion on the ethics of abortion and the "loving option" of adoption sparked my curiosity. Instinctually, adoption suddenly felt like a tragic loss for both the mother and the child, and I began researching the subject voraciously using the library to obtain relevant books and the internet to connect with people who had personal adoption experiences.

Everything that I learned further inspired my activism, and after graduation I founded Adoption: Legalized Lies, a grassroots organization supporting family preservation and the abolition of adoption. In the past nine years, we have participated in awareness-raising campaigns, art displays, rallies, and letter-writing. We have also assisted numerous families who were struggling to keep their children despite interference from the adoption industry.

Yes, Adoption is an Industry

 
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It's good to know that you also know how to alter information to fit your wacked view of the world. Wake up and get a REAL life.

Posted on 06/29/2009 at 3:06:30 PM

Here I was, ready to give this big speech about the crap you've written... but I think I'll just say I wholeheartedly agree with St. Fang of Boredom.

Posted on 06/28/2009 at 2:06:45 PM

I'm adopted, I have a wonderful life, I love being adopted, it has not ruined my life in any way, and I'm all for adoption. Shocker, huh? Oh my goodness, but I'm so glad you've informed me about how terrible my life really is. I should hate my loving mother for adopting me, I should've stayed with my birth mother who didn't have the money to raise me and her alcoholic now ex-husband. Great freaking idea! Not. I happen to be one of the lucky adoptees who both knows my birth family and has a good relatioship with them, but I know other adoptees who don't know who their birth families are and still lead happy, healthy lives. Heck, some of them could care less. They consider their adoptive families their families, just as I do, and don't need to know their birth families. I admit, there are good adoptions and bad adoptions, but don't tar and feather them all with the same brush. Heck, you just learned all of this stuff, you never lived it. I did. You know NOTHING. By the way

Posted on 06/13/2009 at 7:06:48 PM

i hate your guts and your website and no adoption does not kll babys that would e abortyion so good fight you athist nub loser fail idiot vick lover dog hater coffe sipping seatle living wifi abusing liberal

Posted on 06/11/2009 at 3:06:54 AM

Just goes to show you that any idiot with a keyboard and an internet connection can spew forth their brand of bullshit on the internet. Honestly, you prosetylize on something you've never actually experienced for yourself. That makes you not only a moron, but a hypocrite as well.

Posted on 05/29/2009 at 9:05:14 PM

To "I Thought I Was The Only One"...your comment is disgusting. You say that "you either have your baby or you have an abortion, anything in between is a cop out." There isn't enough space on the entire internet to list what is wrong with that statement. My birthmother chose the "cop out" method, and gave me to two wonderful, loving parents who have given me more in life than I could have ever asked for. My birthmother couldn't take care of me, she had drug/alcohol issues, and knew I would be better off in a stable home. I appreciate her decision but I feel no emotional loss; I am in the right place with the right parents. But then again, maybe I should have been aborted.... Seriously, go find something useful to do with your life. This laugh of a campaign is not it.

Posted on 05/09/2009 at 5:05:52 PM

hard to believe after all these years that Jessica is still so dellusional. Jessica let her husband's nieces call her "Aunt" before they were even married (and they still aren't her blood nieces) but that's okay with her to have a "False Label" - just not anyone else. What a crock.

Posted on 05/08/2009 at 5:05:07 AM

ya its funny your a athiest, but thats not the topic. so what if your around 5 years old and your parrents die and you have family what do you want , to live in the street. I know many hapy adopted people who love their parrents.

Posted on 04/30/2009 at 7:04:27 PM

suck my fook

Posted on 04/29/2009 at 8:04:20 AM

we could give her. You need to truly look at this from every angle before you go talking about things you've never experienced. While some of your points are valid, most are just infuriating. You also should question your mothering tactics, a good mother wouldn't force a disgusting sign like that into her daughters hands. Get over yourself and open your eyes.

Posted on 03/23/2009 at 2:03:23 PM

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