Ten Common Dating Mistakes To Avoid On First Dates

Ten Common Dating Mistakes

1. Trying a New restaurant. If you are going on a first date and are the one choosing the restaurant, don't choose a new restaurant. Choose a restaurant whose food you like and are comfortable with both pricing and service. You will be familiar with the menu and can also tell your date which foods you have enjoyed from the menu and why and at the very least you will know the quality and taste of the food that will be served so it is not a disastrous food choice.

2. Too many plans. Don't plan too many events for your first date. It may mean getting stuck spending several hours or an entire day with someone you are having a miserable time with. Be open to playing it by ear. If the date is going well you can add activities, but don't start out with a list of all the things you are going to do and see.

3. Going to places beyond your means. Don't try to impress a date by going to a fancy restaurant. You will be creating expectations for future dates and if you want to go to a less fancy restaurant next time, the person you are dating may think you are changing your standards. Let your date see what your real budget is and the kinds of places you can really afford to eat at. If dating is a means to possibly get into a long term relationship, then be who you are now and don't pretend to be someone you are not.

4. Avoid talking about money as much as possible. If you do not want to have a relationship based on money and materialism, then try to steer conversation away from money matters, and money bragging and material things. Instead, focus on character and personality and interesting stories. It is far better to show your real nature than to fabricate or focus on something that doesn't really make you who you are. Material items and money do not make you who you are. Integrity and honesty and humor and intelligence and human compassion makes someone likeable.

5. Don't be shallow. Focus on the personality of your date and not their good looks or lack of. Connecting on a mental level is what will make the date enjoyable for both of you.