Nice Guys Can Finish First! Here's How

By Monique Roy, published Jun 11, 2007
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Are you a nice guy who thinks this: "Nice Guys Finish Last, Jerks Get Girls?"

It's true, there are many jerks in the world who attract tons and tons of women. It is also true that there are lots of nice guys who struggle to meet girls. If you are not naturally a jerk, it is hard to be one. After all, who wants to have to be a jerk in order to meet women?

Nice guys, here's some good news: Nice guys can meet women.

You just have to change a few things you tend to be "nice" about.

Social Environments
We all know women are emotional beings. Therefore, we tend to believe that there are "acceptable" and "unacceptable" things to do around women. Nice guys are often wrong about the limits of what is acceptable, for example, being flirty around women. Many nice guys believe this is "inappropriate behavior." If you like someone that much is it really inappropriate?

Sometimes the only way a woman knows you are interested is by flirting with her and communicating your interest in her. Little things like flirting and joking about sex can go a long way into making you a potential lover instead of just a potential "friend."

Too Shy and Reserved To Act
Too often, "Nice Guys" wait around for the girl to make the first move to initiate romance. You should never do this. Women take their cues from the men they're with. If you want to escalate into a physical relationship, you have to be the one to make the first move. This can be scary as we are all afraid of rejection. But if you don't try, you won't succeed!

Women find, to a degree, confidence and sexuality attractive. Actions speak louder than words, and if you allow yourself to act and go in for a kiss, or not be afraid to touch her, then you communicate all the right things. She will find you irrestible.

Talking About Nothing At All
Way too many Nice Guys like to talk about boring stuff. They do nothing to captivate the girl. Their stories don't inspire romance or attraction. The real trick with women is to be playful! Have fun with them! Crack jokes. Tease them. Make them laugh!

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No, nice guys can't finish first. Not without some far more drastic help than this. I reccommend the "Gentleman's Guide To Picking Up Women" at lulu dot com. It's like having the manuel.

Posted on 06/13/2007 at 10:06:00 AM

 
Check out my article: "Your Ideal Partner Sucks" Same topic, different perspective

Posted on 06/11/2007 at 2:06:00 PM

 
This was a great Point of View article! - but i'm not 100% convinced that nice guys really can finish first. Talking about her most of the time, instead of something or someone else, seems like a good idea, but i don't think so. It's just going to "spoil" her and she'll always expect it - and get it... once again getting trapped in the Nice Guy Cycle.

Posted on 06/11/2007 at 2:06:00 PM

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