The Top 5 Warning Signs of an Emotional Abusive Relationship

First of all, I am simply sharing this to help others. This is not to put anyone down or to hurt anyone. Some people need help and I hope that they can find the help they need before it is too late.

#5 - Insecurity
Your partner is very insecure because of a previous relationship or maybe as a child growing up. Lack of attention or negative attention can lead to insecurity. If your new partner shows signs of insecurity, let it be a warning sign.

Some signs may include:
-low self esteem or not sure of them self
-talk as if they are not worthy

With these characteristics, the abuser will use them to belittle you to get you to their level. Although it is sad for them, don't allow them to put you through that. You are worthy.

#4 - Controlling
Your partner may not allow you to interact with other people. Sometimes not even family members or friends. They want you all to them self. It kind of feels like being in a trap or cage. It is especially hard if you are outgoing and love people. There are other ways to control you as well.

With emotional abuse the control is in the mind and your feelings. The abuser will cut you down or belittle you. I have found that they tend to shift the blame on you or want you to feel sorry for them.

#3 - Selfishness
They lack the attention they really desire to have because they are already insecure, so they are always worried about themselves, alone. They want to know what is in it for them, no matter what. They will tell you things to make you feel good as long as they get what they want out of it.

Even when it comes to your feelings or emotions, they will not comfort you in anyway. This can cause you to become either hard or just break. It is not fun. I have expressed in a previous article that women need that emotional security. It is one thing not to get it and a whole other thing to have your emotions destroyed.

#2 - Manipulation
The abuser tends to make you feel that it is all your fault. They can't seem to come to terms that they are the one causing the pain. They shift blame and they don't want to understand you. They make you feel inferior. They like to play mind games as well. That is also part of control.