Why Falling in Love is Not so Easy

We all wish we could have it all: the pulse-racing, heart-stopping, floating feeling of sheer ecstasy when we fall in love. The one which draws us immediately in a whirlpool of wonderful feelings. Some of us are very fortunate to find it on occasions. Others - like me - have it almost every time we meet a soul mate, while many others never seem to get near it, no matter how hard they try.

Well, it could be that they need four crucial things:
1. Self-Love
2. Expressiveness
3. Emotional Openness
4. Faith in the Future

Self-Love
The most important factor when we are hoping to fall in love is self-love. If we need someone to 'complete' our life instead of to enhance it, someone to 'make' us happy, instead of sharing our happiness or someone to make us feel good instead of sharing our joy, we have a problem with self-love. In fact, a lack of self-love is the biggest cause of personal problems in life because too many people readily carry that burden. They do not like themself much and dislike certain key aspects of their bodies, but, paradoxically, expect others to like what they reject!!

We can only truly love when we ourselves have love because the greatest love is not waiting outside to find us. It actually lies dormant inside of us, yearning to be discovered and nurtured. Everything else is just the icing on the cake, but YOU are that cake! When that fact is fully realised, acknowledged and accepted, you are well on the road to giving love and also loving another unconditionally. Above all, you will find it really easy to fall in love, with all the fanfare and starlight you dream of.