Why Do People Have Children?

Is There an Objective Reason for Having One?

By Andre Smith Jr, published Jun 08, 2007
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Why Do People Have Kids?

I have always wondered why people choose to have children.

There is nothing rational about purposely raising one's own stress level, or having less discretionary income, or doing things your normally would not do in life. The answer most people often give for having kids is having a bloodline continuation, joy, or happiness. But why are children so expressly associated with happiness? Just because one has a child does, not automatically make everyone happy. Some people get rather depressed by having children, case in point (post partum depression).

All reasons for having kids are personal. In fact the times in which people had children out of necessity are non-existent in the modern civilized world. If you had a large farm that needed workers, okay that makes some rational sense. But these days if your an accountant, and she is a chef, you have no large amount of fields that need to be tilled, or livestock taken care of, so why? Continuation of a bloodline? I've driven around America from NYC, to California, to the deep south...some bloodlines should not be allowed to continue. We know for a fact not all persons whom are parents are good parents. We know some folks that have children should probably not have had children. I do not think many folks would have objected to Hitler's folks getting an abortion, but of course hindsight is 20/20.

Is there any way to logically arrive at an objective reason for having children?

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Dave says: he easy one to figure out is that my kids are going to pay OUR social security, Social Security was invented to take care of those who can't take care of themselves. Part of a three tier system that included pensions and personal savings. Stating that "your children will be paying into my Social Security and thereby supporting me in my dotage is hardly correct." I pay into SS. What I pay in, I presume I will take back out (if SS still exists by the time I retire). But, it is not the government's job to provide for me. SS will be a bit of a windfall, if it's still available. My retirement funds will be just that: mine. What I've invested in CDs and Stocks and my 401ks and IRAs. Dave says: "if you can to imagine that the last human baby was born today. our world would at first slowly then ever faster descend through the millinia backwards in time to the stone age when the average life expectancy would meet up with the last few babys born today and they would

Posted on 11/01/2007 at 7:11:00 AM

 
WOW! thats a lot of thought without really getting it. I have 3 kids. You're welcome. seriously, the tax break I get doesnt even make a micro dent it what it costs to raise a kid these days, so why should you help me pay for it? the easy one to figure out is that my kids are going to pay OUR social security, yours and mine, not you not me, we are paying for our parents to get by, you should have chosen not to have parents if you didnt like that. secondly, try, if you can to imagine that the last human baby was born today. our world would at first slowly then ever faster descend through the millinia backwards in time to the stone age when the average life expectancy would meet up with the last few babys born today and they would die, sometime in their 30s leaving a greatful earth behind, finally extinct of humans. but while you keep living the frat guy all my money is mine dreamlife childfree, I will keep our economy and our species functioning, through endless sleepless ni

Posted on 10/05/2007 at 6:10:00 PM

 
If one truly states that they are glad to be a parent they really should not bitch and complain about not having time with their spouse or lover. PERIOD. Come now these folks did not read the fine print of...your life will be seriously altered, sex will decrease, funds will decrease, and private time becomes non-existent as a couple and even more so as individuals. Get real. Two people should consciously choose to become parents not just "pop-up" pregnant, because like it or not most pregnancies ARE BY ACCIDENT or at the "unplanned time".

Posted on 08/25/2007 at 6:08:00 PM

 
I don't know Chris why you are so upset. You have tons and tons of other articles on here that state how children are so "magical" and great and all those other things...and yet these are the same folks that complain when they can't get a night to themselves as a couple...even worse when being a single parent. Nothing against people having kids but there has to be more of an OBJECTIVE reason for doing so other than to pass on a bloodline in my view. We have enough bloodlines on this planet running around that either A won't amount too much...or B will accomplish something menial.

Posted on 08/25/2007 at 6:08:00 PM

 
I made the conscious decision to not have children when I was a teenager. My husband was all for it as he did not want anymore children. I agree that people should not be coerced into becoming parents. It should be a personal decision. Sophie

Posted on 08/15/2007 at 2:08:00 PM

 
overall, I think you did a great/fine job with this article! Keep up the good work!

Posted on 08/14/2007 at 4:08:00 PM

 
OMY gosh I totally agree with what you wrote! The parents want to spread the bloodline because those type of people wouldn't adopt if the chance was given. They'd rather spread their selfish genes along. Also that thing about the emotional gap or maintained innocence of a child that they long for, that's right! I think most have children because they played with dolls as a kid like me. I'm 23 and I don't have kids. I may want some in the future, and yes it's none of anyone's business whether I can have them or not. But after reading this, I may have second thoughts...still undecided.

Posted on 08/14/2007 at 4:08:00 PM

 
If your parents thought the same way as you where would you be? Heather is right, you don't really know much about parenthood. Have you ever thought that the reason people have children is love? Or is that too illogical? Please the next time you try to write an article try to put yourself in the place of both sides, look through their eyes.

Posted on 08/09/2007 at 9:08:00 AM

 
Wow, this has been the most angry and one-sided article I have ever read. Now I have a few questions for you. If having children is a personal choice why must you attack that choice? You claim to be unselfish, but look at your reasons! All you say is what is in it for you! You say it is logic that drives your actions. What logic? Logic from your point of view or society's point of view? I can agree with a few points, it is a very personal reason. One should not be forced into it. But why do you rant and rave against it? Why are you so angry?

Posted on 08/09/2007 at 9:08:00 AM

 
By the way, the "logical" reason to have children is to carry on your family bloodline and see how it progressed. I really wish my ancestors could look at the progression of Black people after slavery to see that all that hard work did pay off. And even if we don't take it on a historical route, many people "logically" want the human population to continue, just as any other living thing does. Flowers will continue to multiply. Animals will too. So humans have just as much right. I like kids, just as long as I can send them home after 24 hours or so.

Posted on 06/11/2007 at 8:06:00 PM

 
I read this article a couple of days ago, but I was kind of wishy washy on how to reply. I absolutely NEVER want children. I'm far too selfish (and I admit it) to want to take care of another human being (although I am set on having another Labrador Retriever or any kind of dog--I don't mind taking care of something, just not someONE). I do, however, think that some parents really love being parents. My parents are forever telling me these corny stories about me as a child. If my college friend sends me ONE more photo of her daughter, I'm going to scream. She has got to be the happiest mother I've ever met in my life. Although there are people that I wish could never reproduce, I do believe that many people legitimately do want to have children. But, they have a right to have a moment to say "Man, this isn't as fun as I thought it would be."

Posted on 06/11/2007 at 8:06:00 PM

 
Ohh I'm sorry you must have missed it where I said "may or may not get tired of"...there are only two logical options. As well I did have parents, I think I'm fully qualified just as any other person whom had parents. The whole point of post partum was to point out it ONLY OCCURS after pregnancy...take that anyway you wish. Fact remains if she ain't pregnant, she can't go post partum..PERIOD. Being a parent for you is a joy, point being not all parents ARE GLAD TO BE PARENTS.

Posted on 06/10/2007 at 12:06:00 AM

 
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Posted on 06/10/2007 at 12:06:00 AM

 
And I find it appalling that you suggest parents may get tired of their children. It really shows that you were the wrong person to write this article, because you don't seem to know much about parenthood at all.

Posted on 06/09/2007 at 10:06:00 PM

 
Having a child has only minimally influenced my stress level and discretionary income. Being a parent has been a joy for me. Postpartum depression isn't associated with kids not making their parents happy, but with hormones.

Posted on 06/09/2007 at 10:06:00 PM

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