Learning About Your Body Can Lead to Better Orgasms

About The Orgasm

Women produce natural lubrication when aroused, but amounts vary and it dries quickly. The majority of women need clitoral stimulation to orgasm and can't achieve an orgasm through penetration alone. Women warm up slowly and need around 20 minutes of foreplay just to feel turned on. The clitoris and labia majora swell with blood during arousal which also heightens sensitivity. Building up to an orgasm is like building a house of cards. The slightest thing can knock it down. Women need steady, rhythmic stimulation to orgasm. Fast changes of technique can just be a distraction. The clitoris can be too sensitive for direct contact. Working around the area and only moving to the clitoris when fully aroused is often more effective

The Clitoris
Many women need clitoral stimulation during sex in order to achieve an orgasm, and many men fret that they won't be able to find it. If you can't find it, ask for directions!

The clitoris is a small pink bud situated within the outer labia (vaginal lips) above the entry to the vagina. Although all you can see is a small pink bud, underneath is a mass of erectile tissue. The base of the clitoris is often the best place to aim for;" gently knead the outer labia lips with two fingers and then rotate your fingers around the top of the clitoris. You don't have to use your fingers; try using your tongue or a vibrator.

Remember to take your time and don't go for a full-on assault' as many women prefer not to have direct clitoral stimulation; she'll let you know if that's what she wants you to do. You can use lubrication to ease things along, but make sure it's lubricant that's compatible with condoms like Durex play heat and Durex play feel.

Ranging from fast and explosive to rolling waves of intense pleasure, clitoral orgasms are by far the most common and can last between 10 seconds and over a minute. They can result from either direct contact with the glans, or by pressure on the whole clitoris, including the hidden crura.

The female G-spot

The G-spot; and the more recently discovered A-spot; is thought to be part of the clitoris, but direct stimulation seems to produce a more intense feeling.