What to Do when Your Boyfriend or Girlfriend is Ruining Your Self-Esteem

If you're in a relationship and your partner makes you feel like crap on a consistent basis read along to find out what you should do.

How Your Boyfriend or Girlfriend Brings Your Self-Esteem Down

Even if your boyfriend or girlfriend begins your relationship as the sweetest, and most uplifting and complimentary partner, eventually the compliments will dry up, only to be replaced by criticisms.

They'll start to criticizing the way you look, the way you dress, and the way you do things, or your character. Any insecurity that you have they'll seem to sniff out and will begin to make fun of, making the insecurity widen. Some will even begin to compare your flaws with the perfection of celebrities, people walking down the street, or even your friends and family.

Your partner might also begin to tell to you that no one else will want you in order to make you feel that you'll need them.

Why Are They So Mean to You?

Why would the person who claims to love and care for you begin to do this? Because they don't really love you... and that's nothing personal against you, you aren't unlovable. The truth is your boyfriend or girlfriend really doesn't love or accept or him/herself so they find it really difficult to do the same for someone else uncondtionally.

They are so insecure and full of self-hatred that they try to eliminate your self-worth in order to feel better about who they are. They mentally abuse you because that's what they do to themselves.

The reason why they tell you that you need them, is actually because they need you. They need you to stick around because your love and even your loss of self-esteem continues to make them feel worthy. Because they don't feel that they're good enough as they are, they can't imagine you sticking around out of true desire and true unconditional love for them, especially if you see who they really are. So they adopt a false bravado and try to break you down, so that they you will stay out of need.

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