Hang in There and Learn from a Bad Breakup - The Pain Will Pass

If a bad breakup or divorce has stressed out or hurt you, grieve it but don't let the experience sour you from loving again. You aren't alone in having been through a tough end of a relationship, even if it feels this way. Step back from the situation and realize that time is your best friend. Right now, you may be uncomfortable, or maybe even in agony, but the sun will come out later.

Allow yourself to cry, feel whatever emotions that come up, and go through the change from a couple to an individual single person. Sit down and write a list of the things that upset you. For every negative on your list, think of and write down a positive to go opposite of it. Think of the logical response to what seems like an illogical situation. For example, if your twentysomething, committment-phobic ex left you due to being uncomfortable with closeness, write down what your first reaction is. Many people wonder if they did something wrong, which probably isn't the case. Was there someone else more attractive is another common thought, but again, it's probably not true. It's most likely that this person is unable to get close to people. Then, think of the reality of the situation. "He or she is young and isn't able to make a committment right now." If you are looking for a committed relationship, then clearly, the person wasn't a good match for you. There is something comforting about looking at the situation without emotions stirred in. Try to stand back, remove emotion to see the relationship for what it actually was, not for what you wanted it to be.