Bondage, Toys, and the Myths in Between

"BSDM": a tricky acronym that seems to be very confusing to many. Yet when broken down, it is really quite simple. Each letter of this acronym corresponds to each other. B & D = Bondage and Discipline. D & S = Dominance and Submission. S & M= Sadomasochism.

This lingo may still be confusing to you. But it's good to know that "BSDM" can refer to any of these ideas, and unlike many who believe this, BDSM is not a negative or hurtful thing when it comes to sex.

Many may hear the word "bondage" and run scared, thinking of it as too wild or sick or "out there" to even dare try.

What many do not know is that even the simplest acts of erotica used in bed or wherever, are in fact considered BDSM. If you've ever used a blindfold, whipped cream, ice cubes or feathers to entice your partner, you have engaged in BDSM.

Sexual tension is something that occurs within both members of the opposite sex. BDSM is an excellent way to release this tension and discover sides of you and your partner that would otherwise not be seen in a normal session under the sheets.

In most cases, one person chooses to be the dominant and one choose to be the submissive. Self-explanatory, but in essence, the dominant partner is the one in charge; the submissive chooses to be "submitted." And contradictory to popular belief, it isn't just the dominant partner who gets what they want; the submissive gets what they want, if not more, sexually. To keep things interesting, it is not uncommon for partners to switch these roles.

Overall, BDSM is a way to explore yourself and your partner sexually. It's a harmonious agreement between two people to react upon each other's deepest needs, fantasies and desires.

Hopefully this will remove any stereotype or negative connation that "bondage" is all hardcore sex or infliction of pain for pleasure. Yes, the pleasure part is correct. But when a couple decides to engage in this activity, they are not physically harming each other for pleasure...it is more the idea of being submitted by someone else that is the turn-on.