Marriage Problems: How to Avoid Divorce

My husband and I are a few of the “lucky” ones. My parents and his parents are both still married, and only married once. How rare it seems today! In fact, my husband has been married before me, thus breaking the chain in our families. What makes divorce so commonplace today?

I believe that many divorces are caused out of “laziness” or lack of interest. Marriage doesn’t seem to be taken seriously anymore. When taking vows, marriage is supposed to be a sacred, life-long pact. So many marriages are made out of pressure, convenience, as a cover, or simply out of carelessness. Some are made all for the “show” of it (for example, think Hollywood here!). My husband has confessed that he was first married because his family thought it was the "right" thing to do.  How can such an important and unique event become so…lifeless?

Any doubt you have before getting married should be addressed before the big day. Of course, many people will have “cold feet” and wonder if what they are doing is right. This is not uncommon, but take the time to ask yourself why you feel this way. Is it because you are simply nervous about the ceremony? Or is it because you are unsure of your partner? Sort these feelings out before saying “I do” or you may wish you’d have said that you needed more time to think!

It is never wise to get married to please others, whether it be because of a child out of wedlock (unless you were planning to get married to begin with), for monetary gain, or pressure from your partner. Anything that makes you feel uncomfortable will not go away after marriage. It will most definitely cause strain and stress in the marriage, and will ultimately destroy it.