Recognizing and Leaving an Abusive Relationship Before It's Too Late

Abusers come in all shapes, sizes, colors, and genders. And most people don't realize they are in an abusive relationship if they aren't being physically harmed. But the fact of the matter is, abuse comes in many forms. Physical, sexual, verbal, and emotional are the main forms of abuse in a spousal relationship. Neglect is more common in child abuse but can happen in any relationship.

What most people just assume is that abuse only happens to woman which is a common stereotyping. Yes , physical abuse is more common among woman, due to strength advantages. But what about the other types of abuse? Men and woman everyday are being abused in all types of forms, and seem to do nothing about it.

Another thing that people don't take into account, is that an abuser isn't born an abuser. Meaning you could be married to the same person for 30 years, and that does not mean they will never be an abuser. Some form quickly and some develop it later in life. But the bottom line is to always be careful in a relationship and learn to spot certain signs or symptoms of an abusive relationship. Doing so may save your life, as well as someone else's.

I have had the misfortune of meeting quite a few abusive people in my life, but the only fortune I left with was knowledge. Knowledge is power in any aspect of life, and this is one where it is a necessity. So I have decided to do my best to spread the knowledge to everyone who is interested in learning.

When you are in an abusive relationship , you lose all self respect and dignity, and you just give in. The abusers main goal is to gain all control over the relationship and you. So when they feel they are losing control in any way, they take it out on you until they feel that control back in their grasp.

Abusers usually gain control in one way or another, whether it is degrading who you are or physically harming you. You may also notice a lot of times, the abuser will be more attracted to a vulnerable spouse rather than a confident one. They almost have a sense for it, usually picking someone who has left a relationship and is lonely. They usually play prince/ss charming, making you feel like they are your perfect support.