How to Make Your Girlfriend Feel Special

If I had a dollar for every time I have complained that a significant other doesn't do enough to make me feel special, I'd have a pretty fat savings account.

Recently, however, I've learned that men and women really do just think differently. The things that guys appreciate are many times the polar opposite from what we as women want from our guys.

It's not that our men don't care about us or want to do special things. It's just the things we'd most like often don't even occur to them.

So here, for the guys, are a few tips to help you show your girlfriend or wife she's really something special.

Listen without trying to "fix" things

Most often, when I bring up a complaint with my boyfriend, all I really want is for him to listen and say, "Yes, sweetie, that really sucks. I understand why you're feeling that way." And then, just let it go. Not every problem can be fixed, no matter how much your internal manhood wants to try.

Listen without planning your rebuttal

Probably the worst communication tactic I've seen anyone use -- not just men -- is not intently listening to the conversation. Don't begin planning your rebuttal as soon as your girlfriend starts arguing. Nothing says "I don't care about what you're saying" than that. Choose your battles wisely. Fighting just sucks, for both parties, so unless you feel intensely strong about your position, sometimes it's best just to let her have her say and drop it.

(Disclaimer: If you really do feel strongly about the subject, of course, no one expects you to roll over and not defend your position. And this tip, of course, can work for men or women.)

Remember things she likes

Nothing touches my heart more than when my boyfriend remembers something I mentioned I like. For example, in a passing conversation one time, I mentioned I had never been to a very well-known local restaurant. He ended up surprising me with a reservation there for my birthday. This showed not only was he listening to what I have to say, but that he cares enough to do something special for me.