Ways to Spice Up Your Relationship

I'm sure we've all heard that sex after marriage is nearly non-existent. It doesn't have to be though! There are so many things you can do to keep that special spark alive and turn it into a burning flame.

Here are some easy things to do to help turn that spark to flame.

Pick a word that comes up in conversation (night, bedtime, fire, strawberry...). Each time one of you says that word you have to touch. It can be a touch of any kind, simple like a hand on the arm, a kiss or pat on the behind. Or it can be racier like a trail of kisses down your throat or a hand slipped under the table.

Dance! I've heard it many times that guys just don't dance, or don't like to. But dancing can be so intimate if you are going slow and holding each other close. Intertwine your bodies, hold your pelvises together and move to the music playing or to your own music.

Leave each other sweet love notes where they are least expected. What's wrong with waking up to I Love You written in your favorite lipstick on the bathroom mirror? If you pack lunch, slip a note inside just to say I Love You or go with something sexier like "meet me in the bedroom at 10pm for a surprise". Does one or the other leave on business trips? Toss something quick and sweet inside the suitcase before they take off. Or better yet, put a note in the pocket of each pair of pants/shirt/jacket, where they are most likely to stick a hand at some point.

Forget the quick nano-second peck of a kiss before rushing out the door for the day! Give each kiss a time limit such as 10 seconds. Or get rid of the hard lipped kisses and demand that they be soft and sensuous, half open mouth, add a little tongue. That's a good send off in the morning or a wonderful greeting in the evening.

Send your loved one on a treasure hunt.....for you! Pick a night to go out just the two of you. Then one of you picks an out of the way place (restaurant, bar, etc) but don't tell the other one. During the week or hours before your "date" send clues giving hints of where you will be. When they are all added up, they should point directly to you in the most private booth or table you can find.