Pulling a Woman's Hair to Spice Up Your Sex Life

A Guide to Doing It the Right Way

You really don’t want to get this one wrong. Maybe you’ve heard by now that women really, really love having their hair pulled. Some women can have an orgasm with nothing but that if it’s really done convincingly. But you’ve never mastered the art. Shhh….I’ll tell you the secrets. 

Don’t assume that just because women give off a dominant air that they would be shocked by your assumption of your own dominance. Many women are fluid in powerplay, and often, the most submissive women are those who have the most professional, tough, responsible everyday personae. Feel her out, see if she softens when you rub her feet, or if she yields when push her or pull her a little more forcefully than usual. If she does, wait until you two are alone and she doesn’t have to keep up her poised demeanor. And be prepared for her turning around and pulling your hair right back. Go with it. Dual dominance play, muscles working, celebrating strength, and the ability to generate lust can be extremely exciting.

If she has ever tugged at your hair, even lightly, she may be giving you a hint. She doesn’t want to confuse you and dominate you. But she really wants to give you the idea. Do it. Don’t hesitate. She wants it bad. It's a primal urge from ancient times.

It helps to have large biceps to really give a woman the sense she is being overpowered. If you don’t have it, fake it. Get into the feeling of it, and pretend, and just your attitude will go a long way. But if you ever have wondered why a woman likes big arms, this is why. Exactly why. Got it?

When you do it, don’t ask if it’s ok, or be all nice about it, and for heavens sake, do something about your hair if it even remotely resembles a hairstyle your mother is comfortable with. Prepare by wearing black underwear. Dress with something that shows off your style, your force, your maleness. Get into the mood, maybe with a little of your favorite drink to lesson your inhibitions. Because if you are wimpy about this, forget it. She may laugh at you inside.