What it's Like to Live On Welfare

Grace Anne Harmony
Grace Anne Harmony
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People on Welfare Constantly Judged

I climbed my way out of a hole before. I dusted myself off and kept going. I have fallen again in a deeper hole and struggled getting my way out. I have been to the point where I lived on nothing but pop cans from week to week and ate nothing some nights so that my kids could eat. Why? Because I did
n't qualify for food stamps after paying my rent, electricity, water and sewer bills. Bills that was where my money went. I had no phone, no internet and no car.

I lived in a rural area and the snide comment from a friend who had all those available stated, "You should get another job. Quit college and get another job." Quitting college was what I did. I got two jobs and paid the babysitter my money that I obtained from the one job, as that job did nothing but pay the babysitter. Welfare programs do not cover day care when you make an amount of $800 a month. Your foodstamps are also cut which living off of only $200 worth of food is pinching pennies and buying the cheapest items that you can in order to make it stretch for a period of a month. It was either that or sit in the dark, go without a place to live or not buy a car to get out of the hole I had fallen into.

I had finally saved up enough money to obtain a vehicle and drove myself to an appointment at the welfare building. I pulled into the parking lot and was relieved that the pile of rusted metal had made it that far. As I was walking across the parking lot, a brand new car whips into a parking space just before me as the driver paid no attention that I even existed. I wore that day some of my best clothes that my closet had to offer of hand me downs, good will hunts, and clothes that I still wore from high school. Out stepped the driver adorned with Nike shoes, a expensive person and gold jewelry on every finger and around her neck. Her makeup was caked on, her perfume smelled expensive, and her hair cut was not an at home job either. She snorted when she looked at me, rolled her eyes and continued on her way to the doors. I could tell where her money had gone. Strange, I thought to myself I didn't know that for sure.

 
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Did you know that welfare is not designed to help men. Men need to get off their rockers and help support these children they created. Ladies, don't be so blind sided by the "father of my childen" thought. The father of your children should be doing right ny them and if he isn't than extreme measures such as child support should be enforced! No matter what! I make it hard for men because they sometimes don't realize how important their presence, love,teachings are to their children. Ladies we need to encourage our men to be better mens if that's what it takes. Getting a way off a welfare is the key once you get on. You should not make welfare your occupation.

Posted on 10/19/2008 at 8:10:02 AM

There is no problem seeking government assistance. All of us weren't born with silver spoons in our mouths. I have a problem with those abusing the system. They dress better than I, hair done to a tee, and got all the latest Tiffany jewlery. I go out here and make a living for myself. Waking up daily and doing my civic duties. While bringing home good money, yeah. With a great percentage of taxes coming out going to those who will abuse it. Now, if you are not doing this than don't take offense. I know some folks that pay only 20 dollars rent living in a 4 bedroom house. Where as someone like me, with good credit, working for over 2 plus years, etc. get the biggest hell trying to get a home loan for that same 4 bedroom house. Is that fair. As a child my parents were on welfare. So I do know the struggle. It's only a struggle if you condition your mind to think that there is no better way. Welfare should be a jump start for some. It has it benefits. like job assistance, housing,etc.

Posted on 10/19/2008 at 8:10:00 AM

You are right no one ever knows our stories completely when they judge those that must use food stamps, just the jealousy or hatred that they don't have them or the despise for the food stamps. We all have our stories of falling and trying to obtain self sufficiency!

Posted on 10/16/2008 at 6:10:35 PM

Good story. I definitely judge "welfare abusers". My mom was on welfare because she needed it at the time. I was her only child. She got a job and has never been on welfare since. I don't feel as a tax payer, who has a hard time paying my own bills, should be made to support others. I don't mind paying taxes for things that will benefit myself. If I can work, so can the "abusers". People who are ill, fall into hardships, and other helpless issues should be able to receive something. But young girls who keep having babies, shouldn't be my responsibility. Sorry to hear about your troubles :)

Posted on 05/15/2008 at 7:05:46 AM

Thanks for sharing your poignant story. The example of Miss America angered me, but I bet she isn't as nearly articulate as you.

Posted on 01/31/2008 at 6:01:17 PM

Thank you for sharing this experience.

Posted on 01/31/2008 at 5:01:29 PM

I hope that things are improving for you now...you sound like a fighter and a survivor against tremendous odds.

Posted on 01/31/2008 at 3:01:33 PM

I have to say, I feel a lot of what you have been thru...add one more child. lol But, I was that "Princess." Not in the rude ways like this princess was with you but, I come from money. My family doesn't agree with asking for money, helping pay bills, money is NOT spoke of. But they knew it was hard for me, a single mom in college, working a PT job that was more like full time...so I got extravegant birthday and christmas, and deans list gifts. My children were the only grand and great grandchildren. So, I drove a nice car, had my moms hand me down prada and gucci purses...you should imagine the comments I got. And yes, if Ebay had been available back then, I'd have been rich with my families handme downs! LOL

Posted on 01/31/2008 at 3:01:55 PM

I haven't been on welfare but your personal experiences and views really opened my eyes. If someone was living on disability due to having a serious health condition, people would not be yelling "Get a job!" I have a hard time understanding people why people would be so cruel as to yell that to you, standing in line at the grocery store and using food stamps. Unless someone knows YOUR particular situation, I don't know why he or she would judge you and I am sorry that happened.

Posted on 01/31/2008 at 12:01:07 PM

Very Good article. So many Miss America's in this world makes me wonder where I went wrong. Your article is so true...Good luck in all you do.

Posted on 09/15/2007 at 9:09:00 PM

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