Things to Consider About Participating in Pageants

Crowns. Fancy Dresses. Glamour.

Pageants.

Things like Miss America once seemed, well, all-American. But in the face of feminism and Jon Benet many people now question whether participating in pageants is an appropriate activity for women and girls.

As a former teen competitor, I'd like to address the issue for parents of kids and teens.

1. There are many many types of pageants. Some are traditional beauty pageant where a contestant is judged on physical beauty in a number of categories (photo, evening gown, swimsuit or sports wear). Other pageants add in interview or talent skills. Some pageants don't focus on looks at all (achievement pageants) or focus on a combination of things (looks, grooming, achievement, volunteerism and skills) or are directed as specific populations such as Miss Wheelchair America. Not all pageants are the same, and you need to make your decisions about them on an case by case basis.

2. Almost all pageants cost money to enter. With the exception of Miss America (and then you're still spending money on clothes and costumes) most pageants have an entry fee, usually ranging from $150 to over $1000 dollars. While one is encouraged to find sponsors to cover ones fees, realize the family often picks up a large tab. Pageantry can be an expensive hobby. Prizes for pageants often include cash and savings bonds. Make sure the prizes seem fair based on the entry fee and make sure you feel comfortable with the entry fee regardless of whether your child earns any of it back with winning.

3. If you were a competitor, don't assume your child wants to be a competitor. I know there are pageants out there for children as young as 3 months, but I personally don't believe it's right to enter a child in this type of competition before they are old enough to really decide if they are comfortable with it or even old enough to understand it.

4. Don't enter a child in a pageant because they are shy or have low self esteem. A pageant might help them come out of their shell but it might make them feel even more uncomfortable. If you think this is an activity that would help your child, discuss it with them.