Absolute Top Ten Rules for Internet Dating

Caution: These rules were written with women over forty in mind. Finding love, romance, even casual sex becomes a challenge in our midlife years. Follow these top ten rules to be safe, have fun, and avoid as much hurt as possible if you are seeking a partner online.

Rule 10: If you are very sensitive to rejection...stop here! Or sample internet dating in very small doses, separated by lots of time with loving friends and pleasurable activities that don't depend on being selected. Just think back to those elementary school days when sides were being chosen for kickball. If you suffered with rejection then, you'll suffer now.

Rule 9: Remember that internet dating is basically a candy store for men, especially those over forty. With the availability of so many first dates with attractive, quality women, most move on rapidly (sometimes the very same evening!) if they are not fully satisfied or find a slight flaw in your character or body.

Rule 8: If you've had difficulty with shyness, being tongue-tied, or being plain scared with in-person dating, expect the same anxieties to crop up with internet dating. The anonymity of the internet helps a bit but eventually you will want to meet in person.

Rule 7: Understand that all of the following phrases mean the same thing...that he's just not that into you: "Let's keep in touch." "I'll call you soon." "I'll call you tomorrow." "See you soon." "I had a marvelous time." "You're such a nice (interesting, accomplished, etc.) woman." Most men find it impossible to tell a woman that they are not interested in her...they simply disappear or use the stock phrases above.

Rule 6: The only way you can tell if they are truly interested is that they track you down immediately, show up, and keep showing up.