Diffuse the Drama Queen

How to Deal with the Drama Queen in Your Life

By Letrecia, published Jul 27, 2007
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Everyone has one in their life, the perpetual drama queen, and the drama queens in our lives can perpetually over inflate any situation to the point of making it unbearable. But, is it possible to react to her drama without just further egging her on? Is it possible to turn the tables on her so that she realizes how foolish her melodrama is truly making her look? Well, coming from someone who has been dealing with the ultimate drama queen for the last couple of days, let me give you a few pointers on stealing her thunder. After a couple of rounds with you she will learn to tone it down, or stay away from your drama stealing self entirely.

  1. Don't allow yourself to be dragged in to her drama. There are moments in everyone's life that are dramatic this cannot be avoided. However, there are also people that view all of life's changes as an opportunity to react in an overly dramatic fashion. So, simply refuse to be pulled in. She will undoubtedly try to reel you in with stories, tears, outbursts or even arguments, basically anything that will direct attention to her. So, regardless of what she does retain your cool and let it pass over you. Show her and everyone else around that you are the bigger person by retaining your poise in spite of her meltdowns.


  1. Point out to her that she is making a scene. Most of the time with a drama queen the fact that they are creating a scene by no means escapes their senses. However, very rarely does anyone have the guts that it requires to tell them directly that they are causing a scene, and could they please tone their behavior down a little. Now, that being said at this point a true drama queen may launch a full frontal attack on you letting you know that a scene is appropriate, but once again retain your cool and let them know this is not the correct time or place but that you would be glad to discuss it with them at a later, more private time.


  1. If all else fails, walk away. The entire point of being a drama queen is to gain attention. By walking away completely, you are refusing to let them accomplish the entire objective of their dramatic behavior.


 
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Drama Queens do not care about the emotional costs exacted to their partner, the person that has to remain calm, and "fix" the situation. I recommend you find a more emotionally healthy relationship. I dated a 100% certifiable drama queen for 18 months, and let me tell you, it costs you emotionally and mentally-- even can adversely effect your career-- and even if youre good at diffusing the drama. You might need to work late some night on a project, but the drama queen's needs take priority. Find another girl, someone who doesnt need and demand to be front and center in your life, but who sees and loves you for the person you are, wants to be with you as a partner-- and allows you the freedom of choice to love her, rather than demanding that you love her.

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Posted on 11/26/2007 at 6:11:00 PM

 
Trust me, with the drama queen in my life "Shoot Her!" has definitely come to mind. However, with the one I deal with generally when I point out that she is truly making an ass out of herself, that usually works.

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Posted on 09/17/2007 at 9:09:00 AM

 
"If all else fails, walk away." I was confined to a hospital bed so this advice did not work for me. Can't I just shoot her? The rest of your article I found very helpful. Ingnoring her seemed to work, and when I threw up on her, she walked away.

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Posted on 07/28/2007 at 1:07:00 PM

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