I had an Unassisted Pregnancy - True Story

By April Horton, published Jul 31, 2007
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The trend of providing your own prenatal care is growing with a lot of Mothers who are tired of conventional and over managed pregnancies.

I was one of those mother's. No, I do not have a mental illness or a drug problem. I also had perfectly good health insurance. However, I felt I actually had very little in the way of options during my pregnancy, unless I wanted a highly managed pregnancy. I didn't. I also did not wish to do any prenatal testing or ultrasound's. In fact I learned to trust my intuition and trust my body to grow my baby the way it was designed to.

I know how unheard of this may sound to some. I assure you it is a growing trend with women taking back the most precious time in their lives and taking responsibility for their health.

I chose an unassisted pregnancy because my previous pregnancy was highly managed by a group of midwives which also resulted in the development of white coat induced hypertension. After that developed it was all downhill from there. I was subjected to unwanted interventions that spiraled out of control leading up to a cesarean birth. I don't know 100% that my cesarean was warranted, but I do know the health care professionals I hired (and paid) failed me miserably. After my cesarean I developed grave complications that took months for me to recover from and I could have very well died. I was not willing to repeat the process again with my second pregnancy. Being that I had a previous cesarean though, meant I was high risk right off the bat, under the care of any medical professional in my state. I really had very limited options, I wished to avoid it all and I did just that.

Unassisted pregnancy is more about trusting women's ability to gestate than medicalizing and over managing it.

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Bravo and hallelujah!

Posted on 10/17/2007 at 1:10:00 PM

 
Pat, was your daughter laying down? At home, women can sit, squat, and stand, which opens their pelvis farther--ideal for larger babies. Ultrasound weight estimates are rarely accurate and can be wayyy off, so having an ultrasound is rather useless as the technicians can be wrong about everything from defects to the due date.

Posted on 08/13/2007 at 5:08:00 PM

 
It's your body and your baby, and it sounds like you're taking precautions to do the right thing. It might pay you, though, if you have the option, to have an ultrasound done just before time to deliver to see how big the baby is. My tiny granddaughter, 5 feet tall and usually less than 100 pounds, had an 8 pound, 14 ounce baby recently. After a long, long labor, she had 3 long hours of pushing, after the doctor said it would take about 15 minutes. It really tore her up, inside and out, and the poor baby wasn't in that great shape either. She said that next time she will demand an ultrasound just before her due date and if that baby is as big as the first one, she'll demand a C-section. God's blessings on you and your baby.

Posted on 08/13/2007 at 4:08:00 PM

 
This is a great article, April. This is all about CONTROL, and you should retain that right with your health. Of course there were risks. There are risks no matter what route you take. I didn't have these options because I had pre-eclampsia with both kids. Now I trust my docs because I have a chronic condition, but I still maintain CONTROL. If I don't want a medication, a test or whatever, I say so. It's my body, my health, my insurance, my money, my future. Good job and good luck with that young'un.

Posted on 08/10/2007 at 5:08:00 PM

 
Good for you! I did this for my second son but I ended up being taken (non-helpful husband at the time) to the hospital for delivery (17 minutes). The doctors basically screamed at me for not having prenatal check ups every 2 weeks etc. Ridiculous.

Posted on 08/07/2007 at 4:08:00 PM

 
My first pregnancy was normal. Then I had 4 micarriages.I never had a d&c afterwards because I felt that it was extreemly intrusive and had heard that it causes scaring of the uterus, which later could prevent the emplanting of an embryo. After my 4th miscariage,my doctor insisted that I schedule a d&c and would not take no for an answer.So I scheduled it.I called her office the next day and cancelled the apt.I never heard from them. I went on to have child #2!!!

Posted on 08/06/2007 at 8:08:00 PM

 
Well, I am glad you admit that, because earlier you told us that UC mothers get pissed that doctors don't want to take them as patients when they show up in the ER. I mean, for the UC mothers to get pissed about that, it would have to happen first. So it is good to know that UC mothers aren't going to get turned away and thus aren't going to have to get pissed. Are you confusing placenta previa, placenta over the cervix, with placental abruption, which happens without warning?

Posted on 08/06/2007 at 6:08:00 PM

 
Heather: When you show up in an ER, you won't get turned away, you just get whoever is on duty, and it's usually an overworked resident. As for the placentia previa not being fatal, when one of those pops the cork, and they do, you can bleed enough to go into "hypovolemic shock" before the ambulance gets there. And keep in mind that calling 911 justs gets you a meat wagon, not a blood bank.

Posted on 08/06/2007 at 6:08:00 PM

 
Good for you! I'm looking at ways to avoid an over-managed, pitocin-drenched, IV-tied, poke-and-prod, ice-chips-only delivery for my daughter, who'll be here in a month or so. My only real option right now (for various reasons) is to wait til the last minute to go to the hospital, and then to make it clear that I am the boss. That's exactly what I plan to do. The way L&D is treated today in America is utterly insane.

Posted on 08/06/2007 at 6:08:00 PM

 
Congratulations on taking control of your own health-care.We have become conditioned to beleive that without medical intervention we cannot possibly carry a baby to term and deliver without doctors. With knowledge and good common sense there is no reason not to take control more often. Good for you. Just know that when things start to overwhelm or go beyond one's scope of knowledge it is time to head for the hospital for one's safety and that of one's child.

Posted on 08/06/2007 at 5:08:00 PM

 
This is an interesting article. Having an OB/GYN during pregnancy seems to be the most widely accepted choice for women. It is interesting that not all women are taking the same route when it comes to childbirth. The health and safety of both the mother and child should be what is most important no matter what method is chosen. The decision is up to the mother and what she thinks is best for the child. There are so many option available that many women are not familiar with, it is good that you have written an article about your experience, it will help others.

Posted on 08/06/2007 at 5:08:00 PM

 
I had a wonderful lay-midwife for my son's birth. There was much education, lots of choices and very very little intervention. Just to say that this is also a low-tech option for women...

Posted on 08/06/2007 at 3:08:00 PM

 
I respect your decision, and I commend you for your bravery.I thank God that he sent me a wonderful OB/GYN. I had complications with my twins. If it weren't for modern medical procedures, I would have lost my babies. My sister lost her life as well as her nearly full term infant as a result of shabby medical care.

Posted on 08/06/2007 at 3:08:00 PM

 
You can opt out, but you have to sign a waiver. And often the waiver is something that almost suggests you're neglecting your child.

Posted on 08/06/2007 at 2:08:00 PM

 
Congrats on your successful approach and outcome. Re: Chris' comment, no, the state does infringe on your decisions when you give birth and has established a legal right to do so (unfortunately). An example is the healthcare facility's "right" or even "obligation" to take cord blood and test for AIDS. Mother has no say in that but is forced to pay the bill. Putting drops in the baby's eyes to prevent blindness from gonorrhea-no matter how minimal or nonexistent the risk- is another example. You have a right to choice within a class of treatments but you cannot legally opt out. There are other examples as well, though generally they are murkier.

Posted on 08/06/2007 at 2:08:00 PM

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