Fathers Favor Daughters, Mothers Favor Sons?

Why Sheer Gender Pulls Parents Away from Their Kids

By Abby Willow, published Aug 27, 2007
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Without question, parents love their children unconditionally. This goes without saying, a complete familial *duh*. However, behavioural studies in animals have led many people to believe that there is a gender gap that makes particular children more favorable to each parent. Namely, fathers favoring their "daddy's girls" while mothers dote on their "mom-ma's boys".

"Daddy's girl" "Mom-ma's boy"? Not just a saying in many households, but a fact-a thick layer of obvious gender favouritism covering a an ugly pool of emotional distance, jealousy, denial, and yes, anger.

In the animal kingdom, think of say, a wolf pack or a lion pride. In the beginnings of a young animal's life, the single goal for the whole active community is in keeping this new fragile generation alive. Without it, the whole community suffers greatly. As the cubs and pups grow, their genders start to play a major role in the future of the pack or pride. Fathers and mothers within the community must now begin to see their offspring as potential threats as opposed to their youngsters by sheer gender alone.

Obviously more prevalent in the males of both species, the alpha male will look at his own male offspring as opponents trying to overthrow him. Instinctively, these young male cubs and pups begin seeing the alpha in the same light. A great need for the height of the pedestal in the community arises, often causing the alpha male to succumb to his younger and more powerful, agile sons who take over his role as Top Dog (or cat) in the community.

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Im not a parent, im a 15 year old boy, and none of this makes sense, every family is different, so nobody is wrong or right, it all depnds on whos looking at the sistuation and at what time, i was reading the other comments, and the one from heathher b. kind of makes me mad, u came to this site looking for sum1s view, so u dont need to insult them saying they dont know that there talking about, ur family mite be diff, i know mine is, i dont get along with etha of them, my dads mean, he doesnt pay attention to anyone, just sits around doing nothing, and my mom, well shes ok, just she does favor my sister, but she doesnt relize it. maybe she does, and she just wont admit it, idk... but anyway, i was looking for sum help, but this aint it, the paragragh above, gave many good points, just aint what i was looking for, so yeah peace!

Posted on 02/01/2008 at 6:02:00 PM

 
I have both a son and a daughter. Both of them go through phases where they like one parent more than the other. When my daughter prefers me, people we come into contact inevitably say - oh, she's a daddy's girl. And my reply always is - at least this week.

Posted on 09/11/2007 at 6:09:00 AM

 
Very interesting read!

Posted on 09/06/2007 at 7:09:00 PM

 
By the way, many become "mama's boy" or "daddy's girl" LONG before puberty begins. How do you explain that? If a mother has a pair of twins, a boy and a girl, and the boy is a "mama's boy" while the girl is a "daddy's girl," what causes that? Is the mother jealous of the daughter's...flat chest? Is the father threatened by the son...learning how to poop in the potty? Young children are often fascinated by the parent of the opposite sex because that parent is different from them...and usually when "Mama's boy" and "daddy's girl" is an issue, it's because the child responds better to that parent--not because the parent loves the child more or less than other children.

Posted on 08/31/2007 at 7:08:00 PM

 
I haven't got a daughter just yet, but I do want to say that your article shed absolutely no light whatsoever on my relationship with or feelings towards my son. I don't think you proved anything except that you're not a parent, which is clear from your lack of insight into family dynamics. The issues involved with parents and their opposite-sex children are far more complex and have nothing to do with negative feelings the majority of the time. Interesting theory but just not applicable most of the time.

Posted on 08/31/2007 at 7:08:00 PM

 
Wow, very interesting, indeed. I hope I'm never jealous of my daughters. I think I'll just be proud of them. :-)

Posted on 08/28/2007 at 6:08:00 PM

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