Keys to Appearing More Confident on a Date or in a Job Interview

How to Look like You've Got it Together, when You Don't!

Do you have a big job interview coming up? Going to meet your significant other’s parents? Have to go to court? Have a date with someone you really like? Do you feel like you’re nervous, afraid, insecure, or terrified? You may feel like you don’t have it together, but you can look like you do!

Confidence is the most important factor in determining how someone is perceived. You can be the most handsome guy in the room, but if you are lurking in the background, feeling insecure, no one will notice you. However, even if you consider yourself to be a real geek, confidence can make others want to know you better.

Think about this scenerio: You go out on a date with Mr. Hunk. He’s got the look, that’s for sure. But when you open the door, he’s looking at the ground, and shifting nervously from one foot to the other. In the car, he has nothing to say, or he seems to ramble on and on. By the end of the evening, you can’t remember what you thought you saw in him when you accepted this date.

Now let’s look at Date Number Two. He’s the new guy in your office, or otherwise you would probably not have ever noticed him. He is not handsome, but is pleasant looking, and you decided you didn’t want to sit home tonight so you agreed to go out to dinner and a movie with him. When you open the door, he’s smiling and looks you directly in the eye while he tells you how nice you look. In the car on the way to the restaurant, he asks you about yourself and it turns out you have many of the same interests. He doesn’t monopolize the conversation, but he’s so enthusiastic about the things he does talk about, you can’t help but be interested. At the end of the evening, you realize you’ve laughed more than you have in months, had great conversation and you think he’s so cute! See the difference?

We have all met people who everyone seems to love and we don’t see why they are “all that”, but after being around them for a short while, find ourselves drawn to them. It’s all about confidence. So what if you don’t have it? You can fake it! Yes, you can!