The Fear of Rejection and the Trouble with Moving Forward Afterwords

Who hasn’t been the victim of a break up at some point in time? Or at least some form of rejection? It could be anything from being told no by your parents, to being dumped flat on your butt.

Rejection is difficult to cope with at any age. However the worst type of rejection is when you want some one who doesn’t even know you exist. There are many issues with this situation. First of all why do you like this person so much? What is it about them that attract you to them? Is it because you are friends or acquaintances? What do they bring to the relationship?

Another aspect to look at is if it’s a healthy admiration that you have for this person to begin with. If you are peeking in John or Sally’s window every Saturday night this is probably a bad sign! If you’re not a peeping Tom or Tina ask yourself a few questions: Do they know you feel this way? Are they in a relationship already? This could be especially troubling if you are unable to accept this. This is true for any case, whether you were a couple, or just friends.

Sometimes when we look to others to comfort us, especially when we are feeling insecurity as well as pain that we are not sure how to address. Emotional rejection is a painful event to face but that is the only way that you will overcome it. Take a look at how you came to the point you are at. If it makes it easier get a notebook and a pen and take notes. It’s actually very therapeutic and not as corny as it sounds. Write down what it is about this person that drives you crazy. Answer some of these unanswered questions, as in does this person know, or care for that matter. Is this a relationship that can be saved? If your answer is no, then continue to do some more soul searching. Don’t give up that easy! Rejection is painful but the longer you ignore it the worse it will get.