Do you know if he cheating?
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Noticeably, significant others tend to forgive cheaters much easier these days. There are still many who end the relationship on the spot, regardless of factors such as housing, children, or what the cheater has to say. I respect the decision of people who take this path and do not consider them cowards at all. However, in my situation, I took the other path.
In 2002, I left a very violent relationship and lived with my best friend of two years named Brian. Soon, I noticed that Brian was sitting closer to me on the couch and taking extra time out his day to spend with my children and me. Eventually, he broke down and confessed that he had been in love with me for years. I had never had someone so close to me who knew all my faults and seen me at my absolute worst love me so sincerely. Though the thought of a relationship with Brian had never crossed my mind, I immediately fell in love and we were married five weeks later.
I do not condone fast marriages and have heard a lot of opposition over my choice to marry Brian so quickly, but I remind people that it is not as if I married a stranger. Brian and I had been very close for two years. We had seen each other's best and worst sides already, and were still in love. Unfortunately, because everything moved so fast and I was not used to a man treating me so good, I panicked and I left him, filing for divorce six months into our marriage. A long and treacherous separation of about five months followed. I was miserable, knowing that I wanted to be with Brian, but it was easier to leave than have it all fall apart like my former marriage.
In 2002, I left a very violent relationship and lived with my best friend of two years named Brian. Soon, I noticed that Brian was sitting closer to me on the couch and taking extra time out his day to spend with my children and me. Eventually, he broke down and confessed that he had been in love with me for years. I had never had someone so close to me who knew all my faults and seen me at my absolute worst love me so sincerely. Though the thought of a relationship with Brian had never crossed my mind, I immediately fell in love and we were married five weeks later.
I do not condone fast marriages and have heard a lot of opposition over my choice to marry Brian so quickly, but I remind people that it is not as if I married a stranger. Brian and I had been very close for two years. We had seen each other's best and worst sides already, and were still in love. Unfortunately, because everything moved so fast and I was not used to a man treating me so good, I panicked and I left him, filing for divorce six months into our marriage. A long and treacherous separation of about five months followed. I was miserable, knowing that I wanted to be with Brian, but it was easier to leave than have it all fall apart like my former marriage.
- Brian is my soul mate and the one I want to grow old with.
- I screamed, cried, and threw everything I could get my hands on.
- I will admit that my marriage is not always easy.
Comments
Great article. My views differ from yours, but you really made me understand your POV.
This is a frank discussion of what must have been a very difficult personal decision. (have to disagree with your comment that any wife would cry, scream, and throw things - most probably cry, but everyone has different reactions) Each marriage is unique, and you've made a great effort to save yours. Some are not worth saving, sadly. Nice job!
I'm not good with sharing anything..I kind of agree with the willy cutting. I am not as good of a person as you. Very strong of you
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Interesting article for sure, thanks for sharing
Great article-- thanks for the honesty! Good luck!
Great story and very honest. It is so easy to lay all the blame on the cheater, but there is often something going on in the relationship that pushes one or both toward that end. Leaving is often just taking the easy way out and isn't always the answer. You deserve a lot of credit for dealing with an extremely difficult situation and trying to save your marriage.
I'd kill him. Cut his willy off. :)
Well-written! I have to say, I probably would not make the same choices, but you have to do what is right for you no matter what anyone else says. Only you can make that call.
Your story is a very interesting one. I can't say that I would have made the same decisions you did but this is certainly a moving read!
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