What Not to Do to Your Children If You Are the Custodial Parent

Let me start this article off by saying that I am a custodial parent of three children and my fiance is the non custodial parent of three children. In my almost fifteen years of parenting I have been able to see both sides of the non-custodial vs. custodial debate. These debates have a wide topical range, things from child support money and how it is being spent to visitation either lack of or wanting more and everything else that may fall in between. I can not say that there is a concrete circumstance that everyone must follow but rather that I believe each individual case should be handled in a way that would best reflect what is the best solution for the children involved. Now on to my list.

1. Do not talk badly about the non custodial parent in front of your children- I realize that sometimes the non-custodial parent can really drive you crazy, but please refrain from talking badly about them in front of your children. This will not benefit anyone, and you would not like it if the non-custodial parent did the same about you. It is best if both parents talked to each other and about each other civilly, this teaches your children that even though mom and dad could not stay together they can still put be civil and nice towards each other. Talking badly about the non-custodial parent teaches your children that if someone makes you mad, you have the right to say mean and hurtful things about them. How many times have we told our children to be nice and not talk badly about others? We as parents, should follow this rule as well.