How to Write an Obituary

By Nicole Mohr, published May 26, 2006
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When a loved one passes away, you may feel like just crawling into bed and not coming out for years. However, there are many arrangements that need to be taken care of a person dies, and one of those is writing an obituary.

You may decide you do not feel that it is necessary to place an obituary in your local paper, and that is absolutely fine. It is your personal choice. The purpose of publishing an obituary is to let everyone in the community know that the person has passed away. It also serves to commemorate the life of the deceased, and can be a tribute to what the person has done in the community.

The best time to place an obituary is either soon after the person passes away, or a couple of days before any services are held. Services often occur within a week of the death anyway, but it is best to try to place the obituary before services are held. If you do not get around to placing the obituary before the service, it is still fine to publish one afterwards. To reach the most readers, the best day of the week to publish an obituary is usually Sunday.

Most newspapers charge for obituaries. You will need to call your local newspaper to find out the exact prices, but do be aware that the cost is usually based on length, which is generally calculated based on a per line charge, with an additional charge to include a photo.

Because the price that you will pay is based on length, it is a good idea to decide before submitting the obituary what information you would like to include. If you are the one writing the obituary, you may want to consult with other family members to see if there is anything that they would really like to see included in the obituary. An obituary can be very simple, just a few lines stating that the person has passed away with some service information, or it can be a long obituary telling the life story of the deceased.

Takeaways
  • Obituaries are usually paid, and the cost is based on the length
  • The best day to publish an obituary is Sunday
  • Decide before you write what you will and will not include
Did You Know?
Many people read the obituary page every day, even if they do not know anyone who has recently passed away, just because they enjoy the life stories.
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Thank you SO much for sharing this information. I am writing my own so it is one less stressful detail my brother and sister have to attend to. The three of us did it together a few years ago with our father's passing, but it was all done in a haze. We didn't think to ask for a proof and the newspaper printed spelling errors with two names - a stress that could have been avoided. Even if you are in a situation where the obituary is not needed in the reasonably near future, I would highly suggest that just putting a list of things or names you would like included in the same location/along side your will. *Any* details or instructions you can leave those making arrangements is VERY much appreciated in a time when they are most likely in shock. Written out, these wishes also relieve the family of of those sometimes unfortunate situations where there is the "He Said This" / "No, He Said This" debates. Again, thank you for posting this. I think it will help a great many people.

Posted on 04/10/2008 at 8:04:35 PM

 
This was very helpful. I am writing my own, trying to prepare, having a terminal disease. Glad to get loose ends taken care of and make it easier for my family. Thank You!

Posted on 03/28/2008 at 5:03:13 PM

 
thanks, this reeally helps

Posted on 03/02/2008 at 8:03:09 PM

 
my teacher also made me write one !!!!! its kind of hard lmao

Posted on 02/28/2008 at 8:02:57 PM

 
!!!!!!!!!!!!

Posted on 12/06/2007 at 9:12:00 AM

 
>.< my teacher wants me to write an obituary but it give me a headache T.T *sigh* and thinking of people who died is very depressing anyway thanks for the help

Posted on 11/06/2007 at 3:11:00 PM

 
thanks made my project easy, i am assuming if you cant find the information (job from the bible) for ceartin steps you exclude them

Posted on 10/25/2007 at 5:10:00 PM

 
WOW!! now ii know where my teacher got the idea of the project! well thank u for making it the easiest project ever!!

Posted on 10/20/2007 at 11:10:00 PM

 
Daisy 09/26/07 detailed, excellent site for info and a guide for families experiencing death for the first time. This site was helpful for my student's immediate family.

Posted on 09/25/2007 at 3:09:00 PM

 
excellent site info, had an assignment on writing an obiturary and this was very helpful. Thanks

Posted on 09/23/2007 at 2:09:00 PM

 
THANK YOU FOR YOU GUIDE. WE ARE USING THE FRAMEWORK TO TEACH OUR MEMBERS TO WRITE THEIR OWN OBITUARIES....BEFORE THEY ARE NEEDED. YOUR FORMAT IS VERY HELPFUL!!

Posted on 09/13/2007 at 2:09:00 PM

 
My daughter just lost her 3 and a half month old little girl. She asked that I look up obits and how to do it. I have several areas printed out for her. I'm sure she will be able to complete it with the guidelines and tips. Thank you

Posted on 08/31/2007 at 10:08:00 PM

 
I just found out that my estranged husband is very very sick. This article is helping me to organize details of his life to make a happy memory. Thanks

Posted on 08/21/2007 at 8:08:00 AM

 
Thank you, this was most helpful at a very difficult time. When my sister-in-law askd me ti write the Obit for my brother's homegoing service, I immediately got brain freeze. Your article was so very helpful and so very appreciated.

Posted on 06/11/2007 at 4:06:00 PM

 
thanks for this guide, helped me out heaps with a school assignment

Posted on 05/06/2007 at 1:05:00 AM

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