Why it Sucks to Be Pretty

A Tongue-in-cheek Look at What it is Like to Be Beautiful

By Holly Bourque, published Aug 14, 2007
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Contrary to popular belief, being pretty isn't all it's cracked up to be. Sure, it has its perks (just flash a smile and you generally get what you want), but sometimes I think it's easier to get by in life with average looks.

Before I make myself sound too conceited, I would like to clarify that I was never the pretty, popular girl in school. In fact, I was the exact opposite. I was a mere mouse of a person, with scraggly hair, bad skin, no boobs, and crooked teeth. I was never very interested in cosmetics unless it was a cure-all for my acne. My shy personality was just about as charming as my looks. I didn't go to the movies with a group of friends or watch much television. And of course, my grades were very good; since I had no social life, I studied a lot.

This whole being pretty thing just kind of happened. It wasn't a goal of mine, and I never considered myself pretty or beautiful until a few years ago when I met my husband. In his attempts to woo me, he showered me with compliments. The more he complimented me, the more I believed him and the more beautiful I became. This whole "true beauty comes from within" saying is true. I changed how I thought about myself, and that changed the outside of me.

Now that I'm a knock-out, I'm discovering what a pain it is to be beautiful. I cannot go anywhere without getting stared at, leered at, or commented on. If I'm walking down the street or even just getting the mail from the mailbox, some redneck in a truck will inevitably drive by and whistle or shout at me. I've even tried being outside with my husband, but he's no deterrent. They simply whistle at me and flip him off.

Takeaways
  • Beauty comes from within
  • High self-esteem creates beauty
  • Being beautiful has its downsides
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I was a total ugly duckling until AFTER i had my babies. Now I can't make a friend for the life of me. It totally sucks to be isolated as an adult. Being pretty is only useful in grade school - high school. I missed out on that though...so hear I am dealing with jealously and Im still insecure.

Posted on 05/17/2008 at 12:05:36 PM

 
This is EXCELLENT! I was expecting to see a barrage of comments slamming you. Im glad to see that didnt happen. Growing up, I was the only mixed (black/white) kid in my small CA town of white people. I was ridiculously tall, had big boobs and an afro. Fortunately, I also had a sense of humor. I played the class clown role until my mom remarried, we moved and I was surrounded by older step-sisters who knew a thing or two about pretty. That's when the bitches came out. Having been the gangly girl, I was totally blown away by their cattiness. I feel lucky to have also been the "ugly" girl and now the "knock-out" ( love your word choice). However, you are right that it doesnt come without its troubles. I remember getting oggled by men when I was pregnant. It always made me feel incredibly vulnerable and a little ill. Great job on this one.

Posted on 03/13/2008 at 4:03:00 AM

 
I can't believe this is actually on the internet. Can we make this a forum? I was feeling down and randomly googled "why it sucks to be pretty" and this thread popped up. The worst part of it is we're not "allowed" to whine about the hardships we incur from our looks, but everyone else can. It would be so wonderful to talk about the problems that come with exception looks and the resultant unwanted attention. It IS isolating and it IS lonely. Most days I remember this i just a fact of my life and as a result I have to expect that and work through it and keep the people in my life who aren't jelous and love my personality. Some days it still gets hard. Atleast you have the guts to talk about it, Im scarred I may get flogged dare I bring it up.

Posted on 03/06/2008 at 2:03:24 PM

 
Continued... . They say stop wearing make up and doing your hair. I have straight hair and I wear mascara that's it. My friends even notice, they'll say I can't go anywhere with you without extra attention. It's a curse, it really is. I must have done something really bad in a former life to be punished like this. It's truly the ugly ducking story. No friends at all in elementary and all of the sudden I started high school. I became popular just like that for the same reason. I'm no model but pretty enough to get unwanted attention. I just sometimes wish I could get away from people. I know what the other girls feel like. I wish there was a support group for something like this. There isn't here I looked into it. I think I feel as insecure as ppl who don't feel they get the attention they want. Things could be way worse but its enough to make me feel my life is troubled and get depressed about it.

Posted on 03/02/2008 at 12:03:01 AM

 
Beauty can be as isolating as genius or deformity. I know I feel isolated most of the time and cry allot because of it. I'm really sad allot of the time even though ppl say such nice things. I can't get a real date for the life of me. There all people who don't care at all about my personality, I've even tested it and tried to be an uber bitch, I found that no matter how mean or nice you are these ppl don't care anything about your personality. Id like to think I pride myself on my good personality. Its just defeating when no one ever notices or comments on that, the one thing you wish they would. I even tried an online dating site to meet someone who would like my personality first; it seemed like a flawless idea, until no one talks to you unless they see a picture first. 2 1/2 years on the site and yet no one will talk until you send them a pic. I gave up on the site a week ago and hide the profile to never use it again. They say stop wearing make up and doing your hair. I

Posted on 03/02/2008 at 12:03:17 AM

 
Never underestimate the love of a good man. To paraphrase Forrest Gump, "Sexy is as sexy does." Great article about a great subject.

Posted on 01/04/2008 at 7:01:58 PM

 
I was also a late bloomer, but still it must be hard!

Posted on 11/30/2007 at 7:11:00 AM

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