Should You Let Friends and Family Members Ride Your Horse?

When you tell friends and family members that you own a horse, it's only a matter of time before the inevitable question is asked: "When can I ride him?" People who aren't involved in the horse world don't understand your horse training goals or your show preparation; they simply imagine themselves riding off into the sunset in a big comfy Western saddle, even if your horse is a jumper. So should you let friends and family members ride your horse?

The reality is that there is more to the equation than just your protective instinct when it comes to your horse. Not only could a friend or family member ruin all of your hard work at training, but there is also the possibility that a loved one could get hurt while riding. Liability waivers might protect you legally, but will it keep your relationship together? You probably don'' want to deal with the guilt that will come when your horse hurts someone you love.

Of course, this doesn't necessarily apply if you own a docile horse that does fine with beginners. When friends and family members ask if they can ride your horse, you have to make an educated decision, and you can't be afraid to say what you really think.

My advice is to take this question on a case-by-case basis. You might have no problem letting your family members ride your horse, but perhaps you don't like the idea of letting friends hop on. This is entirely your prerogative and your friends should understand when you let them down gently. It isn't about trying to spoil their fun, but trying to do what's best for them and your horse.

When friends and family members ask if they can ride your horse, you first need to check on the policy at the equestrian facility where you keep your horse. Some barns and stables have rules about guests, such as the signing of liability waivers and making sure all friends and family members are supervised. If your trainer or the barn owner isn't comfortable with the situation, you should respect his or her wishes.