Swinging Vs. Polyamory - Am I Wrong to Want One Without the Other?

So you've been enjoying the swinging lifestyle for a few years, and are having a blast.

But what if it starts growing into more than just sex with friends - or friends with benefits? What if your husband or wife starts developing romantic (a.k.a. love) feelings for your playmates? Dare we call it polyamory?

"Polyamory is the practice of having more than one loving relationship at the same time, with the full knowledge and consent of all partners involved. The relationships are long-term, intimate, and usually (but not necessarily) sexual. Persons who consider themselves emotionally suited to such relationships may define themselves as polyamorous, often abbreviated to poly."

-- en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Polyamory

"Swinging, sometimes referred to in North America as the swinging lifestyle, is non-monogamous sexual activity, treated much like any other social activity, that can be experienced as a couple. Swinging has been called wife swapping in the past, but this term is archaic and does not accurately describe the full range of sexual activities in which swingers may take part."

-- en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Swinging

And what happens when the jealousy beast rears it's ugly head. Admittedly swingers (and certainly those into polyamory) are not nearly as apt to fits of jealousy as some monogamous couples, but it's been known to happen...

What happens when one partner wants a polyamorous relationship and the other one doesn't? Is it wrong to want one without the other?

No, it's absolutely not wrong. What you want is what you want. What you feel and what you want is what's right for you and for your life. Period.
The swinging lifestyle is typically about sex!

You get together, you play, and then you go home. That's kind of what it's about. But Polyamory takes it to a new level and, what I would consider, a much more enlightened level where you are actually in love relationships with multiple partners. It's a true and total sharing of one another and not many couples (or individuals) are able to do that.
It all comes down to communication.