Make Sure He Doesn't Love You Most

I can’t remember the last time I was on a real date – the kind with flowers and candles and chairs being pulled out and car doors being opened for me. I’ve been single for a long time, and most days, it doesn’t bother me. But once in a while, I have a sense of regret that I haven’t found that Mr. Right. Frankly, I’ve given up hope. I’m convinced my husband-to-be died at birth.

But despite my giving up on the search, there are those who still long for romance, even those who have had nasty bouts with
relationships-gone-bad. Those little girls who have grown up dreaming of the day Prince Charming would come by to whisk them off into a perfect sunset for a happy ever-after. And this means there will be dating. Maybe catching a movie. Maybe meeting in a chat room. Maybe a flicker of something special when you see someone at the mall. Or maybe a different kind of smile than you’ve ever seen before from that guy who is in your singles’ class at church.

There is nothing wrong with dating. If there were, God would not have instituted marriage into the world or given us a desire to seek out our Prince Charmings. As far back as the Garden of Eden, God was understanding enough to know that we would find a place in our heart that could only be filled with the kind of love a significant other can bring.

But for those of you who are dating, particularly those of you who are parenting and dating, there is a lesson that I’ve learned the hard way. That lesson is a lesson of love. And, unfortunately, it is one that is all too often ignored when romance and excitement get in the way. Frankly, you need to accept the fact that the man you are seeking should be a little more in love with
someone else than he is with you.