How to Fall Out of Love with a Married Man

There are ways to fall out of love with a married man, once you recognize completely that he is not FREE to love you back. It doesn't matter how powerful his vibes and feelings may be. I doesn't matter that he is romantic and tells you things that lift you to the highest highs. I doesn't matter that his feelings for you are, of mythic proportions. The fact of the matter is that he is unavailable and can only give you crumbs of his time rather than honestly give you 24/7 of his ultimate devotion.

In my spiritual counseling practice I come across many, many women who have desperately fallen in love with a married man. Some women stay because the "unavailable man" helps them financially. These are very few. Other stay because they may "subconsciously" not want the commitment but feed off the romance the married man offers. Others stay because they are married themselves and don't want to leave the security of a marriage but want the "candy" or stimulation of an outside affair.

A lot of others stay in the relationship because they are convinced : 1) the man is unhappy and not in love with the wife (or so he says). 2) He is waiting for the children to grow up and leave the house and his children come first ('natch) 3) he has too much tied up financially in the "loveless" marriage and cannot leave because he will grow broke.

If you wish to fall out of love with a married man there are several things you should do. First of all reevaluate how much you love yourself. Do you love yourself enough to accept the "crumbs of time" your married man is offering you? If you think about it, they are stolen moments dressed in shame. Or do you wish to have a solid relationship that will last your lifetime?

Second of all, you must put yourself in the wife's position. How would you feel it you were her? Perhaps your married man has painted a picture of an evil, hollering banshee who in the daylight is a wife and at night an insulting hag. Just remember it takes two to fail a marriage. Your married man is not the innocent bystander meekly putting up with a shrew of a wife.