Keeping Your Love Fresh After Marriage

Tips Never to Forget

My husband and I got married right after college. I graduated, got married, went on a honeymoon, and moved within 15 days. Talk about a complete shell shock! The first night in our new house as a new married couple I cried harder than I ever have in my life. I was in a strange place, away from my family for the first time, and feeling completely alone. My husband did everything he could do to calm me down and reassure me that our new life was going to work out and I would get used to it.

In my heart, it felt like something was always missing. Half of me just wasn't there. Overtime I could tell it was affecting my relationship with my husband. I loved him still with all of my heart, but it just wasn't the same as it was when we were in college. Now, you say, "Things change after you get married and after college, it's normal." But this just didn't seem right.

The romance was hardly there, and neither of us were really trying. And of course, if I wasn't going to put the effort in to try, neither was he. So we were basically at a stalemate. There were "those nights" where we would stay up late bickering about stupid little things. I would get mad and go to the couch, where he would eventually come out and we would patch things up. After "those nights", everything would be good for about a month before things would build up again.

These days my husband and I are doing great and feeling young with each other again. There were some distinct things that happened that really changed us for the better. I want to share these with you in hopes that everyone that reads this will somehow become closer to your significant other.

One of the first pieces of advice I got was from an interview with an older woman who had been married for over 50 years. She said, never go to be in something you would wear while awake. Have a separate drawer of sleepwear just for bedtime. Never wear just shorts and a t-shirt. Wear actual women's pajamas. It doesn't have to be anything real sexy, reveling, or skimpy...just actual sleepwear.