Some Tips for a Long Lasting Marriage

Or at Least One that Will Last 41 Years

However, creating a successful marriage, like anything that is worth having, requires work. I believe there are a number of things husbands and wives can do to encourage a long and happy marriage.

1) I believe it is crucial to begin a marriage with the commitment that it is going to last forever. Many people today go into the relationship with the idea that they will give it a try until it no longer feels right. We live in a disposable society and unfortunately we have incorporated that into our relationships, as well. For me, the only reason I would have considered ending the relationship is abuse or infidelity.

2) In order to begin the relationship with the commitment mentioned above, one should realize that lasting love is a decision, not a feeling. Love and the feelings that go with it is wonderful when it is new, but if you want it to last, you need to be committed to stay the course if you get up one day and the feeling of being "in love" just isn't there. If you are committed to the relationship, you can make the decision to love and the feelings will come back. Personally, my belief in God is enormously beneficial. There are many times I have asked for help in noticing and remembering the many lovable qualities of my husband.

3) The next thing that contributes to a long and happy marriage is the knowledge and acceptance of the fact that love changes as we grow older and grow in the relationship. It is a sign of immaturity to always have to have the feeling of euphoria that is present at the beginning of a new love affair. We can continue to find ways to keep the excitement alive and vital, while realizing the tremendous comfort in having found someone who knows all our flaws and accepts us as we are.