One Great Bachelor-Style Bachelorette Party Idea

I had just gotten off the phone with my fiancé's brother, better known in wedding terms as the best man. I had jokingly mentioned that he should not leave the bachelor party for the night before the wedding. His voice turned serious and his response floored me, "You actually want him to have one?" I wondered what about me said that I don't want my fiancé to have a proper send off from bachelorhood to married life. So I did what I do best - I researched this male bonding tradition. I reasoned that there must be something beyond strippers and drinking that I don't know about, considering it caused our best man to be so concerned about me.

What I learned was surprising. Article after article written with brides like myself in mind made statements like, "few brides relish the thought of a bachelor party" and "[brides] feel threatened by what their honey's friends might have in store for him that night." I was infuriated. I wanted to write to TheKnot.com and ask just where this research came from. I am not threatened by my honey's friends or some strippers at the bachelor party (after all strippers at a reputable club are not the same kind of girls who's "two for one" ads are featured in the Las Vegas Yellow Pages). In fact, if I believe that my fiancé may engage in an inappropriate act with some random girl, I probably shouldn't be marrying him.

Am I crazy? Should I be worried? I turned to one woman I knew would put me in my place - my mom. She pointed out that this article I read about women's repulsion to bachelor parties may not have anything to do with trust or insecurities. It may be a cultural point of view. It may also be jealousy, but not the kind that pertains to other women. "After all," she pointed out, "the girl deserves same kind of a party, but often doesn't get one." That's it! That's totally it! So, let's not stress about our guy's bash, girls! Let's have our own bachelor-style bachelorette party (it's only fair, don't you think?).