Qualities of a Good Marriage

People always say that mixed marriages are the hardest marriages of all to make work. I do not think that this is the case. I have seen so many marriages. Some of these marriages are successful and some not so good, and some that are downright terrible and end in disaster. Upon watching these marriages and watching how each one is different, I have come up with some ideas about this subject and I would like to share.

First, marriage is not about getting married and still being 'me'. I love the way people put this. When you get married, I have noticed that you become me, you, and us. There is 'me', which is the person that my husband fell in love with to begin with. The woman that he knows and some people know of but only he can truly know 'me'. Then there is 'you', that would be my husband. He is the man that I had always knew I wanted and never thought that I would find. Finally in this threesome is the 'US'. Now some may wonder why I choose to make this all uppercase to emphasize this. The reason is that even though you are both individuals, once you get married it isn't so black and white. You have to become that one person. You can't just be me and you, you need to become one. Everyone has that need to be comforted, loved, needed, wanted, etc. Once you get that person who can do it you have to remember that BOTH of you need that.