What NOT to Do After a Breakup

Sure, we've all read the articles and blogs about things to do after your relationship has ended-talking with friends, spending time to reflect, and taking up new hobbies all top the lists, but what about the things that are not such a good idea to do after you've decided to break up with your significant other? These things deserve just as much attention, and avoiding these actions can save you lots of heartache-and embarrassment-in the future.

Don't immediately start dating the first guy/girl that gives you some attention. Just because you want to get back in the swing of things and not spend all your weekends watching movies alone (and stuffing your face with fatty snacks) doesn't mean that you have to start dating someone simply because they find you attractive or give you the time of day. For instance, if this person was 'just a friend' to you while you were in a relationship, you can honestly say that you're not really attracted to this person, and would just be dating them out of desperation. Also, if you jump into a dating situation or relationship too soon, you may repeat some of the same mistakes that you made in your previous relationship, and you may end up alone-again. This isn't fair to you or the new person you're spending time with, so spare everyone the drama and give yourself some time to heal.

Don't let yourself go. In reference to the 'fatty snacks' mentioned in rule #1, be careful to watch out for your health after a breakup. It will be tempting to scarf down doughnuts and pizza to comfort yourself, since your logic will be a little skewed and you'll just want to eat things that taste good. This will make you even more miserable-not only will you be dealing with the pain of a breakup, but you won't be able to fit into your favorite jeans anymore. And, poor eating can become a habit-a habit that can lead to serious health problems. A breakup is the best reason to go to the gym and watch your diet-you can work out all your aggression by running, lifting weights, or kickboxing (especially if you're looking to try something new) and you'll look and feel better in the process. What better way to prepare yourself for dating again?