How Do You Move on After the Death of a Loved One?

There are times and things in our life that we cannot explain. There are moments that we all wish that we could take back. Time passes by as though it was standing steal and the loved ones that we have loss are only memories that we hold dear to our hearts. How do you move on after the death of a loved one?

There are a lot of thoughts and images that run through your head and a lot of unanswered questions that seem to be never ending. The question is a hard one to answer. I became part of a homicide survivors group that offered to answer a lot of my questions and this is one that a lot of the members had incite on. I told them that I wanted to write an article on some of the things that they had done to help them and they all had a few things to add.

One thing that caught my attention was when one lady said that memories are your own memories and they are something that no one can ever take from you. I had a great fear that I would began to forget my loved one and I never wanted this to happen. Because I hold my memories sacred, I decided to make a memory box. Inside of my memory box is a lot of stuff that reminds me of the good times that we had, had together. Each person in our family has a memory box that is filled with good times. This is a great way to keep the things that you hold sacred so that you do not have to worry about them becoming lost.

I started writing down my memories so that I would never forget them. This also helps with dealing with a lot of emotional things that you feel you can't tell anyone. I keep a journal and I decided to put it on-line, I also set up a blog for my loved one so that everyone else can see what he means to me.

The next question that I had was, when does the pain began to ease. The answer I got was, it never really does, it just gets easier to handle. What they mean by this is that time may not heal all wounds but it does help you to deal with them. I don't believe that time heals all wounds because these wounds will never heal. They say that over time you will began to replace the hurtful feelings that you get, with good memories of your love one.