How to Win in the Dating Game

In today's fast-paced world, where people don't take time to even say hello, let alone start up a whole conversation with someone they don't know, dating is no longer what it once was.

In the past, dating was a way to get acquainted with someone - to discover their qualities, their uniqueness, and their character. Over the course of time, a relationship would develop, unfolding like the petals of a flower - slowly but surely.

Couples didn't have the luxury of communicating so easily, so they played the waiting game, seeing each other once, maybe twice a week, which kept the relationship alive and exciting. As a result, passion between them would heighten, akin to the well-known phrase "absence makes the heart grow fonder".

The remainder of their time was a mystery, something to discover whilst dating. There was no such thing as going home together on the first night! In fact, a kiss goodnight was probably the highlight of their first date.

One night stands were rare and the people involved in them were looked upon as cheap and easy, and not at all desirable.

It makes perfect sense because, if you think about it, something you can get easily is no way near as tempting as something you can't. If everyone could own their own private jet or yacht, expensive diamond necklace, or designer watch, then these items wouldn't be so special, would they?

It's the same with people. It's very easy when you first realize you like someone, to rush into things. Calling them several times a day, sending jokes via e-mail, and texting flirty remarks is a lot of fun, but overkill of them starting from the minute you are separated, can however, backfire.

People these days are easily frightened off by such a barrage of communication. They need space. Everyone does.

By holding back, you increase curiosity and anticipation, which in turn makes the actual date more exhilarating and special. It also gives the other individual the personal space that they need.