Selfishness: Love's Chief Enemy

So often, a person can get tons of advice on how to have a better love life: Their family and friends will advise them on the secrets of love and happiness; People will give love tips in a multitude of magazines, newspapers and on the Internet. Love is the most basic of needs, regardless of career choices, location, income or age, yet many people overlook the one basic enemy of a successful love: selfishness.

Selfishness is basic to the human mentality and it is impossible to avoid it. People have varying degrees of selfishness and and to show the affects of how selfishness can be seen in a person that has love I will use a younginnocent baby.

A baby loves unconditionally; they neve love a parent for what they can get from the parent but they innocently love their parents with out any regard to taking advantage of them; this is perfect love yet even a baby can be selfish in there innocense without realising it. It is often seen at an early age; sometimes as early as 6 months to 1 years old. If one studies the mental behavior of a 1 year old it can be found that some children will share their food while others do not want to share their food; this is basically selfishness and it is not hard to understand. However even when some infants have a choice of foods to eat from and they eat the foods they like; even when these children share they will share the foods they like assuming that all others like what they like; this is partly because at such a young age they do not understand that others have different experiences than they do and that others people are individuals so they have different tastes; it is assumed that all like what they like which is a basic and innocent form of selfishness.