A Dating Guide for the Modern Woman

I found an email making the rounds, regarding men, supposedly advice from Oprah. I'm no expert, but I think I am pretty smart about men and relationships. The way I figure it, my fiancé and I must be doing something right to have lasted ten years so far, right? Some of these aren't bad advice, some aren't great advice, I think they all need some elaboration. So, I will elaborate!

1. If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away.

Well, there is something to be said for playing hard to get, and it's that you can only do it so much. Believe it or not folks, men ARE people too, and some even have feelings and emotions, and fear of rejection. I know that might be a shock for you, but it's the truth. They will eventually give up the chase if they feel you're going to keep rejecting them. A little goes a long way folks.

2. If he doesn't want you, nothing can make him stay.

This one is mostly true. Don't try and force someone who doesn't want you to stay. Why would you want a man who doesn't want to? I feel that what needs to be said here is a word about self respect. You are not showing yourself a lick of respect by running after a man who doesn't want you, begging him to stay. MOVE ON! Pick yourself up, brush yourself off, and show yourself the respect you deserve. There is someone, somewhere who wants you for who you are. That person however, will not be impressed with your doormat ways!

3. Stop making excuses for a man and his behavior.

Is said man an adult? Why should he need anyone to make excuses? If you feel you need to make excuses for his behavior, you should probably reconsider being with him in the first place.

4. Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache.

Never ignore your intuition. It's usually right, and often will save you from a world of hurt. Too often, we don't listen to our gut until it's too late. How many times do you have to ignore your instincts just to find out later that they were right before you learn your lesson?

5. Stop trying to change yourself for a relationship that's not meant to be.