Dating Strategies 101: Playing Hard to Get

Add Some Excitement to Your Relationship!

Like preferences in food, drinks, clothing, music and just about everything else, preferences in relationship style vary widely from person to person and couple to couple. While some like a casual, non-exclusive relationship from time to time, others may thrive only in a secure, committed
 relationship environment. Emotional "baggage" from previous romances and our individual personalities shape our dating preferences throughout our lives, and often the direction the relationship takes is dependent on one's significant other as well.

In any dating situation, no matter how old or new, playing a little bit hard to get can often increase the excitement and the level of desire in a relationship. Before you put your strategy into action, though, you must learn the proper balance involved. It is very important to gauge your partner's level of interest so you don't push him or her away. Read on for some tips in entry-level playing hard to get!

When testing the dating pool waters to see if any fish are worth reeling in, one must remember that the chase itself is nearly as important as the end result. Rushing into things sometimes puts on too much pressure, even in the perfect relationship. Taking too much of a nonchalant, lackadaisical attitude toward the relationship can also cause irreparable damage, making your mate to feel devalued and less important than he or she truly is.

In budding relationships, sometimes taking a little time to get to know each other is the perfect transition into an exclusive partnership. While mothers and friends may urge you to "play the field," you may not immediately see the value in their words. Consider this - if you take your time getting into a new relationship and take good care to be certain it is the best one for you, that is so much better than rushing into the first relationship that comes along without a second thought. If you think you might benefit from dragging out your singledom just a teeny bit longer, do what you can to keep your new flame interested and hungry for more! Sometimes just an ounce of resistance initially is ultimately worth a pound of perfection.

Related information
  • Make time to see each other, but not every day.
  • Preserve a little mystery.
  • Be available, but not too available.
 
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I went on vacation for a couple of weeks. I didn't call my crush....and was surprised to hear from my best friend that he had been asking about me and was disappointed that I wasn't back when I said I would be. He is a true player and I realized he must have cared or else he wouldn't have exposed his feelings like that. Long story: short- Absence really DOES make the heart grow fonder. I will find out just how much fonder when I see him in the morning, for the first time in almost three weeks.

Posted on 06/21/2008 at 11:06:11 PM

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